how come i feel unworthy of every girl i make contact with and struggle to say anything? im tired of this i dont feel i have anything goin for me at all. nothing. completly nothing.. i feel like absolute crap all the time. ive made contact with 5 diferent girls this week off dating sites and other popular sites and ive been unsuccessful,,,my offers completley rejected, or they never get back to me...im despairing right now because it feels like its always going to be like this...im 29 and have missed out on so much and feel an urgency for female company..and you no what? thats exactly what im NOT getting. im working through my psychiatric problems at the moment and my low moods and anxiety, and anger...so...so what what, does this mean i have to remain alone?!!! arrrrrrrrrrrgh!!! i cant take it anymore its slash throat time...and i dont mean that literally..and dont no girl say wow either because when guys get real mad, thats all you seem to be just about able to say is o mg wow..
2006-11-23 03:07:50 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I feel sympathetic towards your situation. One thing: Try at all costs to avoid online dating sites. I don't think there's been a single successful partnership that started with one of those. If you're going to meet a GOOD companion, it will be in person.
Here are some things to keep in mind
1) Many girls feel exactly like you. They are also worrying that they're running out of time
2) Maybe it would be better to work out your psychiatric problems BEFORE looking for a partner, so that when you do find a stable relationship it will last longer.
3) All girls, whether they show it or not, value chivalry. Hold the door open for women, offer women your seat on the subway, offer to help them carry heavy things, etc. Even if it doesn't result in a relationship or even a friendship, it will make you feel like you have something to offer the world.
4) Many women are attracted to shy men. Don't feel like you have to fake confidence to get a girl's attention.
5) Traits that could be turning female's off are:
- Arrogance (BIG no no)
- Irritability
- Negative self esteem
- Instability
- Untruthfulness
- Introversion.
Good luck!
2006-11-23 04:10:42 · answer #1 · answered by Avalon A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'll buff out just go out to mall library and church and don't be afraid to ask anyone out who looks attractive. The more you get turned town the more of a chance you have that someone will say yes! Don't give up keep asking you never know! I have an ugly guy friend who got a hott girl like that she never had got asked uot because guys were intimidated and she and him are dating now!
2006-11-23 03:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did the girls u meet say or do anything to make u feel unworthy? or is it that u are blindly choosing girls that are not your type?
2006-11-23 03:13:56 · answer #3 · answered by I need a vacation! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋