My husband and I are real sexual, we know eachother's body. We play with eachother and explore eachother's body. I know exactly what he likes and where he likes it. But I have a little problem, I cannot perform the one thing he likes best BJ'S .
Well, I can, but I really don't like it. Do you guys have any tips that can come useful?
Thanks
2006-11-23 03:00:21 · 19 answers · asked by 2pretty4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, you need to think of it as a positive experience. What other sexual experience can YOU be completely in control over his pleasure??? So you should feel like and be confident enough to take advantage of that position.
And don't forget that men are extremely resilient in that they can be recharged and ready in a couple of hours. Have you seen the many women on here asking how to keep their husbands happy?? The answer is to keep his weapon emptied. When all his ammunition is used up inside you, he ain't got any bullets left for other man-eaters.
2006-11-23 03:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter why you're uncomfortable with it. The reality is you are and that's all that matters. You mention you're "really settling down," but might you mean you're settling down to what he likes? That you were more comfortable in the beginning than he was speaks volumes: you have few, if any self-esteem issues or a lack of confidence. He, however, brought one too many expectations into this relationship and he's just going to get over it just like he would if he found out you weren't a great cook or didn't like science fiction books. This is your preference and it should be respected by the man who professes to care for you. There are a lot of women who will not give a man a ******** - and of those who will, not that many like it. There are those who don't mind it and even do like to do it, but that doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you because you don't. Don't give in on this. Respect yourself enough to hold true to your boundaries.
2016-05-22 22:45:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I enjoy BJs, I can tell when my partner is not as enthusiastic about it.
You have to make a decision of whether you will or won't
What is it about BJs that you don;t like?
Can you overcome that concern? If you cannot, then don;'t do it. The one thing guys really like is commitment in that department.
2006-11-23 03:04:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
perhaps you could get him to put on flavoured condoms. That's the most apt suggestion i can think of right now, i'll get back to you if something else comes to my mind. Anyway, you should tell him how you feel about BJ's, i'm sure he'll understand! Perhaps he has ways to make you like it.
2006-11-23 03:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by twentythirdday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem. I know my hubby lovesit but i don't like doing it. We talked a lot about it. We decided to try it with chocolate syrup (i love chocolate), maybe some candy. Try something you really like.
But be careful not to get it inside him, it can cause infections that can easily be treated though.
2006-11-23 03:14:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-23 04:18:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I tried using whip cream. But the next day he had to go to the doctor coz some of the cream got stuck inside and he got infected (nothing serious actually). Just be careful on what you use to make it more enticing on your end. lol!!!
2006-11-23 03:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't ever be forced into anything you are not comfortable with even when married...marriage does not give anyone the right to trample the beliefs of another...let him know that you are not happy about this and if he can't accept that...then lose him, because his view of you is not what it should be...and the relationship is not 50-50, it is 100-100...
be brave...
2006-11-23 03:06:31 · answer #8 · answered by The walker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may want to put your hand around the base, and then you can control how far it goes into your mouth. You may also ask your husband to put his hand around the base and then gently jack off in your mouth, using your tongue to provide stimulation along the shaft.
2006-11-23 03:11:00 · answer #9 · answered by drocker999 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why are you asking the guys? I don't know too many women who honestly admit liking it...I suppose some do...but they do it to please their partner....just as I suppose there are men who feel the same way about fellatio...right or wrong on that one?
Or are you simply asking on how to give a better ********?
2006-11-23 03:03:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋