one of mY friend's boyfriend made a comment to me that suggested he was flirting, I could tell he was a "play boy" because of his personality, anyway she thinks she has the "perfect man" who would never cheat on her (they have been together 15 yrs)..they are not married, anyway, should I tell her what he said, or should I let her keep thinking that he has potential to cheat
BTW, he told me I have a sexy body, and nice lips and he licked his lips when he said it
2006-11-23 02:26:30 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
it depends on how good of friends you guys are, because some women, (this happened to me) get mad and accuse you of wanting what they have! instead of getting mad at the man for what he is doing or wanting to do. you have to be really careful and be prepared for that to backfire if you tell her. she could get mad at you
2006-11-23 02:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What an awful position to be in! If you tell her, he's going to lie about it when she confronts him and turn her against you and you will look like the bad guy. Or he'll say he was joking around and that you blew it out of proportion. Blow it off, let her have her fantasy. After 15 years this incident (which she didn't see for herself) is not going to cause her to change her opinion about him. She'll have to catch him in the act in order to see him as the player he really is. I hope this helps. Good luck.
2006-11-23 02:34:47 · answer #2 · answered by eightieschic 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god, yes! You have to tell her. If you don't and she finds out you never told her, you'll lose a friend for life. If you tell her now and she doesn't believe you, you're only risk is losing her as a friend for a short time. As soon as she realises you were telling the truth, she'll run back to you.
2006-11-23 02:29:38 · answer #3 · answered by littleone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! This is a "kill the messenger" situation. She will turn on you & he'll happily blame you! HE is the one you should address! Just tell him that was sleazy and your friends loves him. Tell him you are dissapointed in his behavior and maybe he'd better think how much he would miss her if this sort of behavior got reported to her. He is playing with fire-don't you fall in!
2006-11-23 02:43:03 · answer #4 · answered by life coach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Would you want to be told? Even if you were blindly in love? I would. Preface it with, "You won't want to hear this . . ." and then tell her exactly what happened if you decide to tell.
2006-11-23 02:35:18 · answer #5 · answered by DelK 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would stay away from him, and tell your frend that he is very likely to cheat on you.
2006-11-23 02:40:29 · answer #6 · answered by mburleigh8 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell your friend. He sounds like a jerk!
2006-11-23 02:28:45 · answer #7 · answered by two_kee_kees 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋