The sister of my bf got pregnant and no one knows only me if any1 finds out they will kill her coz its against our culture the baby is just 2 months old she asked me for money and ive send her the money she had half of it and she needed the other half:S I am against abortion coz its forbidden in our religion but i wanted to help her coz i felt sorry for her she could have gotten killed...AM I RESPONSIBLE FOR KILLING THE BABY?
2006-11-23 01:57:04 · 21 answers · asked by sara07 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i just wana add to it that it all happened so quick she called me today and told me she needed the money for 2mrw and that she needed a part of it i didnt know what to do coz i was worried if i wouldnt have done anythin she couldnt ask any1 and she was 2 months pregnant after 4 months it would be killin but in 2 months its not a real baby yet is it? omg i cant believe ive send her the money ive just bin readin the answers from you guys...am starting to feel guilty now...my case is worse than hers..coz am the only one who knows and i cant tell my bf which is her brother and i helped killin that poor babyy I WISH SHE NEVER CALLED MEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE:@:@
2006-11-23 02:11:38 · update #1
well-not totally. it's mainly her fault. but unfortunally you did help her by giving her the money. sorry. i hope everything works out ok.
2006-11-23 02:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Haley 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you look at it. You obviously feel guilty so I don't think you'll stop even if people tell you you aren't responsible. Personally, I don't believe that the collection of cells that is a "baby" at 2 months actually is a baby so therefore you aren't responsible for killing a baby. But, I don't think most people will agree with me. If she could not have gotten the abortion without your money, then yes, I'm sorry, but you are at least partly responsible. I don't know what religion you are, but I think praying for forgiveness will go a long way to making you feel better. PS Be careful this girl doesn't start depending on you to get her out of trouble all the time; she sounds very irresponsible.
2006-11-23 10:08:58 · answer #2 · answered by kealey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont feel too too bad. it is her fault although if u are against it u shouldnt have given her the money and told her she is on her own. I am against abortion and would nevergive someone the money for that procedure. The baby at 2 months is a baby now, the babys arms,legs and eyes are forming and the babys heart is even beating so yes its a baby. u can look on google.com and search for 2 months ultrasound pics or 2 months developing fetus. U will see. maybe she didnt do it yet and u can try to talk her out of it or ask for your money back. its heartbreaking what they do to thesse poor babies. Good luck..
2006-11-23 12:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way, yes. If you had been true to your beliefs, then you would have had to have a backbone and not 'feel sorry for her' by giving her money to have an abortion. Sincerely, I hope that no one does find out, for you and your bf's sister for your own safety. I know you were doing it out of the goodness of your own heart and it was a tricky situation. But that is when we are tested as to what we really stand for and believe in.
Hope she is dealing with it well, you as well. In future, stand for what you believe in.
2006-11-23 10:08:35 · answer #4 · answered by DolphinLami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel so bad, think of all the $ you have saved her, It really depends on How old she is how responsible she is and how she would be able to afford a child,
Plus i would question her motives asking for $ in a panic for the next day? are you she is really pregnant? She may be mixed up in drugs.
2006-11-23 10:27:03 · answer #5 · answered by mburleigh8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - you did what you thought was right, at the end of the day - you weren't the one who went ahead with abortion and the unprotected sex. That was her.
All you did was suppprt your friend, this is something that is truely brilliant. I would love to know i could have someone like you to count on if anything in my life was wrong.
Dont feel guilty - its not your fault, she is old enough to have sex and get pregnant then she is old enough to make her own mind up without you having to feel guilty about it!
Take care! x
2006-11-23 10:09:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
How sure are you of the fact that she used the money for an abortion? Is there any possibility that they just needed money and came up with the story?
2006-11-23 10:01:31 · answer #7 · answered by ♦♦pixiechix♦♦ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The doctor did the deed. Biology is chemical reactions, like a virus, like fire, it's a mirror image of true life which is spirit. The baby is a spirit that is indestructible, The real child remains.
2006-11-23 10:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by spir_i_tual 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yea u kinda are sry to tell you that u gave her the money she couldnt of gotten killed she could of gone to the cops if she really was gonna get killed even if its her problem for getting pregnant not yours you dont have to help your bf sister if you guys were friends (even if you are) you should of just consulted her now the life of that baby will be on both of your minds im sry but thats how i view i hope i helped you a little bit
2006-11-23 10:04:51 · answer #9 · answered by newyorican chick 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, u did not kill the baby...neither did ur friend. Religion may make u feel guilty abou this....but wouldnt it be a bigger sin to have a child brought inot this world unwanted??
2006-11-23 10:07:31 · answer #10 · answered by its_me_cheeky_dee 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋