I have a mate who is depressed (didn’t want to use that word but had to), her mood changes like the weather. Some times she’s a really good laugh and other times she just stresses out and most of the time she’s in a bad mood. She’s been on anti depressants for a few years but they don’t seem to help. I have tried everything but gota admit I’m not the most humorous person around but I want to help her. She’s always at home, I have asked her to come out and chill with me, Movies, Bowling, or just for a drink but she always says I don’t go out. I have never had a mate like this, so can anyone advise me please?
Thanx
2006-11-23 01:55:32 · 7 answers · asked by Mr. 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you can't stop her being depressed, but you can be there for her. be patient. its possible she will always be like this but without you she could be worse. try and encourage her to have fun with you but if she doesn't want to go out suggest you go round to hers. she needs people like you in her life that care about her. good luck :)
2006-11-23 01:59:09 · answer #1 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to have a good talk with her, coz you are not able to help her, unless she lets you help her. It's very clear from your description of the situation, you have tried every ways & means to help her, but all your attempts falls in vain.
It's not encouraging to advise you to abandon her in this moment of time, whereby she needs you the most.
Here's a touching real encounter from one of my friend, it really did make me cry & is thought-provoking... The friend of my friend keeps blaming herself until today on the suicide of her younger brother. Her brother killed himself at young age of 21. He doesn't speaks a lot since childhood, rather say he's a passive person that people around him would think that he's infantile autism. His family doesn't look into this problem until he kills himself. Only after his suicide, the friend of my friend (which is his elder sister) start to realise that all the while, nobody in the family had ever tried to understand her brother, maybe he has problems then he's just feel helpless that he chose to end his life. When people closest to us did not lend a helping hand to us, we will feel that we are abandon by the world.
Whatever happens, never think that it's too late to do anything before it's really too late...do not ever let any regret haunting you forever...
2006-11-23 02:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by solvemaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a reason why your friend is depressed. Try talking to her to find out why she is depressed.
Unfortunately when depression really gets a grip on someone, then usually they need expert help and advice in addressing their illness.
Its good that you are her friend, try to be supportive, and offer any assistance that you can, give her a shoulder to cry on if you have too. Hey stay home with sometimes and have a girly night in..
2006-11-23 04:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by robert x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find another mate!
im sorry i know its harsh but when i was depressed i still tried to keep my friends, friends!
you keep trying to get her out and about but nope its not happening!!!
she just keeps sitting indoors feeling sorry for herself all day every day thats her problem, im telling ya with someone like this you need to keep away a little as she WILL make you depressed too!!!
untill she can stop pitying herself for the situation she is in and start thinking SHE is going to make herself happy not tablets. id stay well clear! sorry, but she aint trying!
2006-11-23 02:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do is be there for her. all she needs is caring people around her. a lot of people get stressed because they think no body cares and there not good enough. convince her what a lovely person she is.
2006-11-23 02:04:21 · answer #5 · answered by Dragonfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there may be a reason for the moods, you need to sit and explain to her how you feel and that you are worried for her. you need to be brave for her.
2006-11-23 01:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's down to her, she wont change till she's ready.
2006-11-23 01:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by chickadee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋