I'm thirty-somethin,married - grown kids(18m & 20f) work from home(online)& this should be where life gets easier...but in sept my husband went on a business trip for 11 days so I had my best friend Angie stay with me (we been friends over 20 years)...It was friday evening we been drinking & we took a cab to the casino & played slots for hours(& several more drinks too)...We both have been known to flirt a bit(Angie more than I) & she has always prefered black men taking guys home alot, this time she brought him to MY house(a 22yo handsome black man called JC,Angie is 35yo) we had a drink & then they disappeared into 'her' bedroom,then 'after'... JC had to go & Angie rode along(cab) & said she'd be back soon- I dont know why but I went into that bedroom-saw the condom on the bed & laid down, lifting my legs high & emptied the still warm condom into my vagina!.NOW I"M PREGNANT! (hubby had a vasectomy years ago) What should I do? I hate abortions but am consider it! SHOULD I OR NOT?
2006-11-23 01:45:13 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
what was you thinking! Taboo? The excitement of living dangerously? Drunk Stupidity? OMG! Are You Really That Stupid???... I also dont believe in abortions used as a convenient means of birth control...but in your case I wouldnt rule it out yet either...talk to your husband and see what you both come up with...he deserves the truth even if it costs your marriage...I dont know what else to say...good luck...
2006-11-23 02:02:15 · answer #1 · answered by debbi2b82 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I so hope this is a joke. If you are serious your lucky all you got was pregnant not a std or hiv/aids which you could have passed on to your husband. In fact, you might not even be out of the woods in this area. You better go get a Hiv/aids test immediately. And again in six months.
First of all I think the whole thing is gross. I can't imagine doing that in a million years. Here Angie was safe enough to at least practice safe sex. But it's also gross that they left the condom on the bed too! But I wouldn't have let them have sex in my bed in the first place. What a mess!
You also need to get some help from a psychologist because this is just self destructive behavior even if it was just one time. There is something seriously going wrong, seek help!
You need to talk to your husband tell the truth and then deal with the consequences of your behavior.
2006-11-23 02:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why the hell would you go into the bedroom, lay down on his 'still warm condom' and then lift your legs up high and empty it inside you? Makes no sense, no matter how drunk you were.
If you hate abortions, and you should, because this is not the baby's fault, it was your own carelessness and forgive me for saying this, stupidity, then you HAVE to talk to your husband. I don't know what else to tell you except good luck, and I hope everything works out for the better.
2006-11-23 01:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by *Jessy* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing I have learnt is that honesty is the best policy. It would be better to confide in your husband and tell him the truth. If you don't and you have an abortion; the guilt will destroy you. You should never keep secrets like affairs and abortions to yourself...you always get found out and the outcome is usually worse than if you were just honest in the 1st place. Obviously you will be scared to tell your hubby about this and his reaction will not be very good...he may find your honesty a little hard to believe and may think you've been having an affair. Speak to your friend about the situation, she may understand the situation as she knows you.
2006-11-23 01:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by fizzymizz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are nuts. Condoms people have spermicide in them that kill a majority of the sperm so you probably are either making this up or your husband's vasectomy didn't work. Either way, this is not a place to ask a question like this. you need to talk to your husband and your doc. Abortions are not the answer to stupidity. If you did something stupid, face the consequences. that child didn't ask to be conceived, it was by your doing, so live up to it.
2006-11-23 03:09:15 · answer #5 · answered by carmadsmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally against abortion but in your case i would recommend it, seeing that u acted stupidly and I'm going to assume under the influence of alcohol. Maybe ur you wanted kids and u'r husband cant give you anymore or maybe u just wanted to see if u could get pregnant that way I dont know but what i do know is that its going to be hard for your husband to believe u so do what u think is best to save ur marriage. I wish u all the best!
2006-11-23 02:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by terrybogle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have it, put it up for adoption, maybe Madonna wants it. Tell authorities you have two many kids to take on an extra kid. You have no financial needs to cover an extra kid.
Might as well get AIDS/HIV tested.
Abortion maybe best, last choice. Then get mental help, you'll just have a breakdown later in life. Could of been a smart child, Noble peace prize, president of the US. Who knows, you don't you aborted it.
2006-11-23 02:13:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the first thing you need to do is talk to your husband. I can't tell you whether to have an abortion or not but whatever you decide, your husband deserves to know what's going on with you. If you decide to have one, you may be somewhat depressed after which your husband will pick-up on. If you decide not to have one, he needs to be prepared for the new arrival. You also have to decide what you'll tell him if you keep the pregnancy. I would opt for the truth as chances are he'll be able to see the child is a Mulato. Good luck to you; it's not a situation I would want to be in.
2006-11-23 01:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by kealey 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You did something extremely weird. Why you would do something like that is beyond me. Keep the baby. He/she did not do anything wrong to die. You did something strange and need to live up to what you have made yourelf. Tell your husband..maybe it can be resolved. If you have troubles...which will happen..deal with them. You can carry the baby to full term and then give it up for adoption. There are many people that wish they could have stupid incidents...like what you did...happen to them. But they will never receive that kind of chance...no matter what you do keep the baby and tell your husband. GOOD LUCK!!!! You'll need it!!
2006-11-23 02:19:48 · answer #9 · answered by tashasenior2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, that sounds like a totally implausible story (I've heard of a turkey baster, but come on) but if such a thing did happen then your husband has the right to know so he can help in making the decision.
2006-11-23 02:07:35 · answer #10 · answered by slknspphr3645 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋