I'm 23 years old and I live in a house with my parents, don't respect my feelings. I have a girlfriend who's now my fiance, and my parents won't even let me see her anymore. We're each other's best friend in real life. I've been engaged to her since November of 2004,and had been dating 5 years prior to that they've never had a problem with her before, and now we're set to get married in February of next year, and my parents now don't want me anywhere near her.
They said, "John, we forbid you to go anywhere near her, and you can't see her ever again."
She leaves in April of next year for Saskatchewan, I was going to live with her and start my own famly. They're preventing me from pursuing my one dream in life to have a family with the one girl in this world that I truly care about.
What do I do? I'm so confused and so unhappy, and so is my fiance?
2006-11-23 01:24:35 · 18 answers · asked by John K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Living in the same house with parents as a child/teen. is hard enough. But when you're an adult it can be even harder. They can't forbid you anything. You're over 18 and there's nothing they can do. If you leave it's not like they can call the police or ground you for it. It's time to get away from that situation. Love your parents REGARDLESS to what they say and do, but you only have 1 real chance at love. Don't lose her to unsupportive parents
2006-11-23 01:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Just get it over with already!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell are you doing still living at home with your parents any way? Get out get a place of your own and live your life the way that you want to and see who ever you want. Your parents will get over it a lot easier this way and wake up to the fact that you have to start your on life and that what they have to say about it is no more than what they think. They can't believe that there going to run your life forever.
2006-11-23 01:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by ranchforman57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family is the exact same way, I had to move back in with them after having a break down and not only do they not respect my feelings but they completely disrespect me as a human being. If they are going to be that hurtful you are old enough to be standing on your own two. I say give them a warning simply say .....
"You're my parents and I love you deeply but this is my life and it's beyond you at this point in my life to make decisions for me. I appreciate your input, but I will not accept your decision to seperate me and my fiance. Now you can either love me and be supportive and here for me, or you can choose to lose me and your future grandchildren. Either way this is my life and this is what I chose."
If they refuse don't feel about leaving and not turning back until you feel they are ready to accept it.
2006-11-23 02:15:51 · answer #3 · answered by LoveLeighe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
John, you're 23 for goodness sake! You're an adult, how can your parents still determine who you can meet and not meet? Are the doors' to your home padlocked, are you locked inside? No one is asking you to be unfillial to your parents but you have to start living your own live, make your own mistakes. If you really love her and has the means to support a family, then pack up and leave.
2006-11-23 01:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOur 23 your engaged and your moving to Sask. If possible why not move out now. Do you have friends you can live with until then. Before you leave, make it clear to your parents why your leaving dont give them an ultimatum just the plain facts.
2006-11-23 02:35:37 · answer #5 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you impaired in someway that is not evident in your question? I'm not sure why a person of 23 yrs would still be living at home and even worse, be listening to their parents about the decisions they are making for their life. I'm inclined to advise you to move out as soon as possible.
2006-11-23 01:33:00 · answer #6 · answered by Alterfemego 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 23 so you get married and move like planned you are a little to old for your parents to forbid you from seeing someone
2006-11-23 01:32:36 · answer #7 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is the deal you love her go for it have you dream you have to think your parents have done the same thing or similar when they were growing. Your parents will be mad for a while but they will soon get over it when there grand child comes! live you life the way you want and make you selves happy you can go around this world trying to make ever one happy. Go and live you dream.....Congrats and good luck. hope this helped you.
2006-11-23 01:31:12 · answer #8 · answered by kim806 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, you have to have a deep talk with your parents...If you're planning to pursue this life far away...You must have your parents blessing...It's very important that you always keep good relations with your family or your marriage will not work...Trust me on this...You might feel like you can't live w/o this woman...But in the end your family knows you and what they say will come back to haunt you...
How about trying to explain to them how much this girl means to you? It's possible that they are scared to loose their son...You must reassure them that you're grown man and need to move...
Good Luck.
2006-11-23 01:51:33 · answer #9 · answered by $&$& 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. you are 23 that it the age where you become an adult you have to lead your own life .
2. If you love her then go after her .
3. leaving your parents doesnt have to be on bad terms just try to explain to them why you love her .ask them why they think you shouldnt see her .
Take responsability of your life .
peace
2006-11-23 01:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋