I just found out that my 12-year-old daughter has a Myspace, when I was looking at our laptop's internet history. I've heard alot of bad things about mySpace on the internet over the past year. I saw her myspace profile, it's decent and doesn't have a picture. Her profile is on private and when I went into her account, I recognized that all of her friends of MySpace are her friends that go to school with her and have been over to her house.
Should I really delete if there's nothing bad? I'm pretty sure she was pressured by her friends at school to make one, because it doesn't seem like her to make one because last year I heard her say to a friend Myspace was for losers.
2006-11-23 00:53:22 · 47 answers · asked by glassman123 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
i think you should leave alone
2006-11-23 06:20:29 · answer #1 · answered by traveller 7 · 3⤊ 3⤋
If myspace is used responsibly its ok. If theres nothing bad than dont delete it. Since Ive gotten a myspace Ive reconnected with a few old friends.
Just make sure that her profile is private and she knows everyone on her friends list. You can also go into privacy settings and change her setting so that when someone adds her they have to know her last name or email address.
2006-11-23 04:00:45 · answer #2 · answered by .:AMIZZLE:. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The whole myspace thing is about predators stalking your child. Make sure she does not give out any personal information. No city info., no phone #'s, no school names, no last names, etc. Predators can track these children through that type of information.
Another thing that you may want to monitor is the content and who they are in contact with as much as possible. I have a 12 year old son, that will let me go over his account. I can do it discretely because I offer to help him with the design of his content. That way, I can look over things and make sure he is not getting into anything inappropriate.
2006-11-26 02:20:35 · answer #3 · answered by stacey h 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same situation in my house. My daughter is 12 and she and all of her friends are my space junkies! Just keep an eye on it. The rule in my house is that I have access to her profile and that I am informed of her password. We have already gone over all of the basic rules regarding safety and security. I do check on it occasionally and there have been times when I have seen a thing or two that I find to be innappropriate....but not too bad. Mostly just the the language used between she and her friends on messages and the occasional friend that has inappropriate pics. Keep an eye on that because they can add celebrities to their list of friends, and sometimes junk filters through.
Just keep an eye on it. If she is unhappy with you checking in...then she shouldn't have it. If there is nothing to hide..then she shouldn't have a problem. Let her know that you DO trust her....it's the rest of the world you are worried about! It is your job to protect her...I bet the parents of victims wish they had checked a little closer.
Good Luck!
2006-11-23 04:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No, Don't delete it.Trust your daughter.Everything you hear on the news about myspace is the bad parts that don't occur often.I have a myspace and am totally safe on it.Just let her know that you know about it and ask her to let you check up on it every now and then.Don't like look at it everyday to make sure she's not getting into trouble.Trust her and if she starts hiding stuff ask her about it.Don't like demand it or anything though.
2006-11-23 11:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Shelby Victoria 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
myspace is a public website, but profiles can be set on private. talk to your daughter about online predators, and make sure she's not adding anyone she doesn't know or putting personal information online. obviously she knows what she's doing if she hasn't put anything personal up. so let her keep it, and about the whole friends pressuring her; i highly doubt it. my friend said the same thing last year, and now he's on it everyday. it's popular, so maybe she's decided to join it.
2006-11-23 12:53:20 · answer #6 · answered by goldie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to let her keep the My-Space, that is up to you. BUT>>The rule of having the computer in a place where the parents can watch is VERY effective. Experts will tell you to have the computer the child uses in the living room, family room, etc. where you know what is going on. Tell her to NEVER, NO exceptions, give her name, address or ANY personal info to anyone on the Internet. She most likely is or will be talking in chat rooms and no matter how mature she is, there are people who she will think are her "friends.". After "talking on line" with these people, they really feel like friends, when in reality we have NO idea who these people are. Most are good people, BUT..there are those who prey on children and it's a fact of life.
It's our job, as parents, to monitor what our children are doing and to keep them safe.
The Internet is wonderful, but it can also be dangerous.
2006-11-23 05:12:54 · answer #7 · answered by LittleBitOfSugar 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a myspace and from my point of view there is nothing wrong with it, its a way (for me) of escaping my everyday working life. For her its probably to keep in touch with her friends!
I think you should trust her, if you delete it then she will resent you for it, and also could just make a new one!
If you want to find out if she is doing anything she shouldnt be then play detective, but i doubt she is! I'm sure she's just having fun!!
Dont worry! xx
2006-11-23 02:14:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her opinion of MySpace was probably influenced by it's growing popularity. That's normal, kids want the "cool" stuff.
As long as there isn't anything wrong happening with it, I say let her keep it. Just let her know that you checked it out because you were concerned, and let her know that you will continue to monitor it to make sure she is safe from sickos. Try not to totally blow her privacy though, 12 year old girls need something to hide from their parents. As long as there aren't any pervy guys emailing her, its fine.
2006-11-23 14:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a myspace account, I use it to keep in touch with my friends in college, and who have moved away. I think you should let her keep it with the understanding that you will check it randomly, and that she doesn't give information on her school, or anything that could give someone the knowledge of where she lives, also, you might tell her to limit her interactions with people she already knows.
2006-11-23 03:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by Stacy V 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't delete it - it seems like she's being very responsible. You can't say that she was pressured into doing it, people change and kids don't always tell their parents everything. If you delete it, she might just start to rebel and she can always make a new one. Kids need space to do their own thing and as long as you didn't see nude pictures and out-of-order behavior there's nothing to worry about.
2006-11-23 01:04:01 · answer #11 · answered by princess_j2006 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋