after getting married or living with a long time partner??
2006-11-23 00:22:20 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes. I put on weight. I didn't mean to ( who does?). I'm battling to get my weight back down now. I'd love to say my hubby loved me irregardless - but that would be rubbish. He has never said anything but he'd love me to be slender, despite being round himself!
2006-11-23 00:31:30 · answer #1 · answered by wissy67 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe some, I try not to! It's hard we are all so busy these days.
It becomes easier to not think about eating a second helping when your just happy to be with your spouse talking about your day. Or cuddled up together in front of the TV. Then kids come into the picture and your busy with them. And it's easy to snack while preparing all their meals and snacks. Plus now you have even less time because your even busier. So if you have to chose between working out or reading a bedtime story to the kids it's hard not to chose the kids. Then of course by the time get them bathed, pj's, stories and prayers, etc... Pick up the house and do what you need to do for the next day, maybe get some time in with your spouse.. Whew.. your exhausted!
I think too people become more comfortable and worry less when they aren't looking to attract a partner. Men often gain weight after marriage too. Perhaps some of it is just part of the cycle of life?
It's important though to respect yourself (and your partner for that matter) to put some time into your appearance, your weight, etc...
After all if you take care of yourself your healthier, happier and that is good for the relationship!
2006-11-23 00:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by Wicked Good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's why alot of people end up drifting apart after they have been together a long time........because they don't put the same effort into themselves or the relationship. They start to feel oh well he/she loves me anyways so I don't have to try. Can u imagine if people put the same effort into themselves and each other 10 years later as they did in the beginning, how much more fulfilling relationships would be. I say take pride in yourself and be the best u can be always.
2006-11-23 01:09:45 · answer #3 · answered by Amber 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you live together you get into the comfort zone so it's easy to not make an effort as you've already got them. I like to think I make an effort most of the time with my appearance and I try to always wear nice underwear, as much for feeling good about myself as for his benefit. My advice is to at least make an effort with whatever you wear to bed (preferably nothing), you still have to see each other as sexy and look and act in that way- if your sex life goes you're done for.
2006-11-23 02:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, you have to work harder than ever when you are in a relationsip. I would never consider letting myself go... but that's for me, not anyone else.... I've been brought up by a very beautiful and sophisticated Swedish mother who taught me that you should always make the best of yourself, even if you can only afford soap.
2006-11-23 00:29:43 · answer #5 · answered by Stripper 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
no, to let go is to expect the one you love to fall in love with someone entirely different...that is why so many relationships now end in divorce or break up..... everyone should be the best they can be....is that not the ultimate in flattery to your partner....Jack Nickleson in as good as it gets says "you make me want to be a better man" should we not all be striving to do that because we want to be inspired by our lover/ partner?
2006-11-23 00:30:33 · answer #6 · answered by michael s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not with regards to my weight, not even after having kids - but then, fortunately for me Im naturally slim, so I dont have to worry about it, but on the other hand, I do slob around alot more when Im not at work or Uni (sometimes I dont even bother getting dressed or washed - what a total scuz bag!!!!!!! ). :-)
2006-11-23 00:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by niccilicci 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way!!!! i like to keep my appearences up always to keep the relationship as strong and as pleasure filled always!!!
comfort is a bad thing to have in a relationship,, it stops people caring about themselves and their partners like they should!
2006-11-23 00:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by Angie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hardly - if anything has made me more paranoid about looking good ! i mean i dont want my husband having the p took out of him for marrying a munter now do i! LOL
2006-11-23 00:26:29 · answer #9 · answered by princesssp8 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No definatly not!! Iv been livng with a bloke for 4 years and always always make an effort to look good!! Not only does it make him happy but i feel betta in myself to if i look good!! x
2006-11-23 01:17:53 · answer #10 · answered by jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋