What to do if you Partner says "your NOT special ....and I Hate you?

Question

One night i asked my Boyfriend to move over a bit on the bed because he was squashing me and he jumped up and shouted

" SHUT UP! your a dick head Lil Cee Cee, your nobody special,your just a normal girl"

I was shocked and confused
I asked him why did he say that and if he hated me and he said Yes!

Well a few hours later he apologised and tried to style it out by saying that nobody is special but me and him together are special.

He doesn't want us to split and insists he loves me(but what a contridiction) but i can't help thinking that boyfriends and girlfriend who love eachother do find their partners special.

Help me! I NEED advice.
Not sure if i should:
1 kick his boney *** to the curb
2 make life hard for him
3 forgive him and walk away
4 forgive him and stay with him.

The thing is now i feel distant from him,since he said that i feel that apart of what i felt for him has died.

Answer 1

He said you were not special and he hated you? You feel distant from him and your love has died? Move on girl! Do not waste a minute more on such a boor whatever he says to keep you now. Leopards do not change their skins. YOU CAN DO BETTER FOR YOURSELF.

Answer 2

Firstly go to the nearest wall and hit your head against the wall a couple of times. Now that you have literally bumped your head, pack you goods and get the hell out of there. I'm sorry but if a man really loves a women he will never ever in his whole life even dream of responding the way he did. And if you stay with him you are going to be regretting some way down the line.
He doesn't deserve you. So i say 1 & 2

Good luck & don't think with your heart

Answer 3

Making life difficult for him will make him worse, forgining him and staying with him will make you worse because what e said was really hurtful and i might i add totally uncalled for! He obvoiusly has some seriously unaddressed issues that he's taking out on you-but to say he hates you?! what is that all about?! maybe you could try talking to him asking if everything's ok with family/firends work etc but if i were you hun, i'd leave don't let anyone speak to you like that, that is not love and you should find someone better good luckx

Answer 4

Definately 1, then 2. Don't even think about 3 or 4!

Answer 5

You have to ask yourself questions about your relationship in general!
1) Do you normally get on like a house on fire?
2) Does he act like this often?
3) Does he treat you well 95% of the time?
4) Are you happy?

You have to be really honest with yourself and each other here. You need to sit down together and ask him why he acted like that! Good luck! He really shouldn't have spoken to you like that! It was hurtful and inconsiderate.

Answer 6

Forgive him and walk away because the guy sounds like a control freak and he will only keep on doing this to you until he wears you down. The only way out is to leave him.

Answer 7

If he was half-asleep at the time of this shocking outburst, it was probably closer to the truth than anything he has said since, I'm sorry to say.

Walk away fast.

I feel for you....that is a horrible thing to have to listen to.

Answer 8

You don't need to be spoken like that by anyone, least by the man who says he loves you.

I was in a relationship in the past where the boyfriend and myself spoke to eachother in horrible ways. It isn't love if you can upset eachother with words like that.

Answer 9

1. I hate bony butts, get rid
2. Let him make himself hard.
3. Why?
4. ???
5. Tell him that he is an unfeeling piece of dirt and the time has come to wipe him off your shoe. If he has done this once and you let him get away with it, what hope do you think there is for a future?

Think about it please.

Answer 10

go for 1