I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we've not long got back together after a break. He has changed so much and I'm not sure if he's the person I fell in love with. He says things to me like he doesn't care about me any more and all he feels is cold towards me but at the same time he will say things like he loves me and he can't wait to marry me. I keep remembering the bad things he has said to me and I find myself crying. I dont know what to do.
Please help!
2006-11-22 22:17:59 · 21 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let him go ...........
2006-11-22 22:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fact that you are asking the question means that you probably should move on......you wouldn't need to question the relationship - even through a bad patch, if you're with a soulmate.
Though sometimes some people can be very insecure in a relationship and find ordinary things overly hurtful - maybe they were let down in the past - and need constant re-assurance. He has said that he loves you and can't wait to marry you...
If this applies to you - then try to work through it, and get some help to gain confidence and become less insecure. If this doesn't sound like you at all, then you should probably move on...who knows...there maybe someone very special just around the corner.
2006-11-22 22:41:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like him as much, if you have to keep splitting and if he makes you cry then don't stay with him. Even if he loves you it's not worth it. He may be happy with you, but if you're not happy with him then it will only get worse. If it means breaking his heart now then it's better than in 10 years down the line when you have kids. It's better to have a failed relationship than a divorce.
Look after number 1, make sure you're happy. It's not nice to feel miserable and unsure towards someone so put yourself first even though it may be difficult.
2006-11-22 22:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Christian S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no count number if that's hurting you to place your self available and discover out which you suggested it does then dont do it anymore. pass on, he will the two come around finally or he wont. with reference to you looking and answer to why he broke up with you he gave you one. He cant take care of your scientific problems. l recognize this has to injury probably greater so than others due on your problems however the superb element which you're able to do for your self is pass on and practice to you *** finished ex which you're actually not a stupid pathetic bi**h as he places it. Be as reliable as you may collect all yoru might desire to proceed putting one step forward and at last you would be pleased with your wreck up P.S in the adventure that your individuals became against you for some rumor or something a boy unfold they weren't your individuals to start with. practice there opinion of you incorrect by being the main useful lady you will possibly be!!
2016-10-04 06:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to anyone telling you to jack it. Listen to your heart. You might find that relate or such like might be able to help. However, that statement I'm not sure if he's the person I fell in love with has alarm bells ringing for me so I guess the others might have got 'lucky'.
Are you still best of friends with him and would it be a marriage of convenience?
2006-11-22 22:23:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words can hurt but they can also sooth. Take a look at the whole of the two years and make a note of his 'actions' and yours. Your words are they same as his...up and down...you both need to work on your communication together and learn to work things out...maybe youre spending too much time apart and not enough quality time together. Peace.
2006-11-22 22:31:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL IT SOUNDS LIKE A LIL QUILT ON HIS PART, AND HE CANT OVER COME IT, CAUSE SOMETHING HE HAS DONE TO YOU, (MAYBE U KNO & MAYBE THERE IS SOMETHING YOU DONT KNO)...
BELIEVE ME IF YOU MARRY HIM, IT WILL ONLY GET WORSE... ONCE THE TRUST IS GONE, IT IS HARDER THEN HE_ _ TO GET IT BACK TO WHERE YOU TWO WAS ONCE AT... IT WILL BE HARD FOR A LONG WHILE IF YOU DECIDE TO END IT, BUT YOU TWO COULD ALWAYS TRY AGAIN FROM THE BEGINNING LIKE BE JUST FRIENDS.. BELIEVE ME, IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM, AND IF YOU PLAY THE HARD TO GET PERSON, AND ACT LIKE YOU DONT CARE ANYMORE, IT WILL OPEN HIS EYES AND HE WILL WAKE UP.. ITS WORTH A SHOT IF YOU REALLY LOVE HIM... GOOD LUCK
2006-11-22 22:26:44 · answer #7 · answered by tabygurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps playing with your mind and can't even be consistent about whether he cares for you or not, just solve it once and for all - dump that flake! It sounds to me like he's either manipulating you or just wants someone by his side, regardless of whether or not he loves you - and it doesn't sound like he does love you, or he wouldn't treat you this way.
2006-11-22 22:27:30 · answer #8 · answered by Andromeda_Carina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hurry things up. Wait and watch for some time. May be something wrong with him. You always have this option of dumping him but wait for a while.
2006-11-22 22:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Infinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
moving on swiftly.
he treats u good treats u bad, so ur miserable, right, so ditch him wait for someone who makes u feel good all the time, else u'll just brak up in another cupla years, big mess, and u'll be depressed till u break up with him. u'll get over his creul *** too.
2006-11-22 22:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have answered your own question there.
You say, "he's not the person you once fell in love with". I think its time for you to ditch him and move on.
2006-11-22 22:19:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋