Hi all
I truelly love my Godchild
I'm 21 years old & his mother is only 19.
When she was pregnant she use to drink & party.
When she gave birth I bascially bought everything for the baby including diapers - Now that she is working she's not providig the neccessities.
I know she loves him - But I can give him such a bright future - I have a very very good career (Advertiisng Coordinator) where she works in a factory - & it seems that party times are more important to her. She sometimes let him stay with me for weeks without even phoning to know how he is doing, & it breaks my heart to see that he has no bond with her (i want him to have that, dont get me wrong I do not want to be his mother) I just wanna give him the best in l
How exactly do I ask her to let him be with me (his only 8 months old)
I know she is his mother
But how can a mother do that toher child
Is it wrong of me to thing this way?
please help me
& give me your honest advice
Thanking you
2006-11-22 21:55:31 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
its not wrong of you to want to be the parent because you have obviously taken responsibilty for this child and spending so much time with him it is quite natural for you to grow a bond..so of course you want what is best for the baby...the baby is blessed to have you in his life,unfortunately ...if you approach her about givng you her baby then she may snatch him away from you, that will hurt you and will ultimately hurt him worse...just do for him what you can, always make yourself available for him..if she really isnt concerned with spending time with him..you will have him most of the time anyway, especially when he gets older and starts moving around, let her know that she can count on you to be there...as for his bright future, baby is still young and so is his mom ( hey...so are you!!) she may get things together so that his future may be brighter. baby is only 8mths, give her a chance to grow into motherhood, but if she does, be prepared for your feelings to be hurt because that means you become more the godmother instead of mother
2006-11-22 22:14:13 · answer #1 · answered by huneygrl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WOW - you have a real dilemma here. First of all, she isn't a good and decent mother and she is definitely taking advantage of you. Thank God the child has you. I would look into becoming the child's "Legal Guardian", ask your friend. She is not giving the baby up - but you need "guardianship" - for the simple reason that if this wee one gets sick,hurt,injured how in the world can you sign for him in a hospital. When he starts school, you will need to be registered in order to interact with the teachers. So, only you know how to approach her. Maybe, seeing that you are far better off then her, you could consider sharing a dwelling together, something big enough for all of you, a 3-bedroom. That way your God Child will be with you all the time. Now that's if you can live with your friend. Some of my friends I love to death, but I couldn't live with them. Try for Guardianship and you don't need a lawyer for that. Apply through the Family Court. Good Luck sweet one, never let go of your Godchild, your the best thing he has.
2006-11-23 06:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by peaches 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The role of a God parent is very clear. The main role is to introduce this child to the love of God, hence God parent. 2nd u r to be as much support WITHOUT interference in the child's uprearing as possible he has a mother who u state does love him no matter how much or how little u may think that is. Obviously she choose u as a God parent because u were her most respected and closest friend and confidant. She trusted and still trust u to be there even when she is not. She is young and u r not too much older. Encourage her try to spend time with her too and allow her to know ur concerns but do not and I repeat do not for an instant suggest that she is a bad or neglectful mother because u will lose them both I guarantee u that. Be who she chose u to be, his God mother and if God forbid she should die U have as much right to be in the child's life as anyone else who has blood ties to him, by law especially if u r in his life as much as u r. She gave u that right and I hope it is legal through church records that clearly shows she chose u as her sons God mother.
2006-11-23 07:49:37 · answer #3 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong of you to want that for your god child but that is a decision that she would have to make. I know someone who raised their niece for the first 2 years of her life but that was because the mother and father chose for her to do that. If you ask her if she would be willing to let you raise the child then you run the risk of her getting upset with you and possibly not letting you see the child at all. At any rate.....i wish you good luck with this and i hope everything works out okay.
2006-11-23 06:17:29 · answer #4 · answered by Andrea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope!. Because as a godparent it is your duty to act as the second parent and perform the duties of the biological mother in different aspects where the mother is found wanting...but...as long as the real mother will not legally entrust her child to you, you don't have the right to own the child.
2006-11-23 06:07:53 · answer #5 · answered by dimma59 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not wrong but it would be best if you can instead help the mother to be a better mom to him . if you really want the best for the child then help the mom .
2006-11-23 05:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's not wrong, it would be best if you can instead help the mother to be a better mom to him.
2006-11-23 06:07:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sonu Raja 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋