My husband and I just moved into his parents house. This should be just a tempary "thing"... His parents are very laid back. He works nights, comes home and drinks till her falls asleep. She watches her daughters kids all day and cleans... cleans everything. She does our laundry and even folds my underwear. She cooks us dinner everynight... She never says anything negative towards me... she hardly even talks to me...
I am not sure how to act around her. I am very thankful for her hard work she does with taking care of my crap. I tell her thankyou several times a day... I just am not sure if I like her doing everything for me. My mother is very high strung, and the minipulative type...
I feel bad because she does so much. I honestly don't like spending time with her, not because I don't like her... I just have nothing in common with the women... She is kinda "the man of the house" she fixes the car, builds a spare bedroom out back, goes hunting..." I can't even make small talk..
2006-11-22 21:40:42 · 8 answers · asked by Mom 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
uh... I do have a job... I work 6 days a week... 8 hours a day... so...
2006-11-22 21:47:36 · update #1
Just try to help out even when she does not need help. be aware of the things that need to get done that she doesn't like to do, maybe you can do it... if you can't help with the chores and housework, how about helping with the finances by shopping, or buying her something she likes... a hammer, a tool box, etc...
2006-11-22 21:46:12 · answer #1 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are living in the woman's house. She is doing your laundry and cooking your dinners! And doing it all without any strings attached. I think the least you can do is find out more about her. What kind of food, movies, travel destinations does she like? What other interests does she have? What was her childhood like? Where did she grow up? How many brothers and sisters does she have? Did she go to college? Did she used to work? Once you find out what her more about her and what her interests are, you can ask her questions and your conversations will become more "real" and not just small talk. Take her shopping one day. Teach her how to use the computer. Give her something you know she likes to eat but does not buy for herself and enjoy it together. Take her to see an art exhibit, a movie, to the zoo, to a nice restaurant, a picnic, a hike, a trip to the beach. The more you do with her, the more stuff you will have to talk to her about . . . AND the more you will have in common with her. She sounds like a very nice person. You just need to make an effort. Good luck!
2006-11-23 07:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by luffy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my future mother in law doesn't give a crap about me so at least this woman is letting you be apart of the family. As long as you tell her thank you and that you appreciate it, thats what you should do. Maybe tell her that you appreciate her helping you out so much but you don't want her to think she has to do that.
Theres always weirdness with mother in laws, you just have to accept it and be as polite as you can be really...what else is there to do? My future mother in law doesn't say a damn word to me.. and her son adores me, yet he can't even tell her we live together because she'll disown him and forever hate me....I've been nothing but nice to that woman.. So be glad its not that bad lol But if you always say thank you and that you appreciate it, then you're being polite and theres not much else you can do... Don't feel obligated to spend time with her unless others are around or unless she sincerely wants you to...
2006-11-23 05:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by CoCo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all ive got to say is just be gald shes not the mother in law from hell. just try and make some small talk by asking her how her day was
2006-11-23 05:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job.
2006-11-23 05:43:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something for her to show your appreciation.. Geez, the women is working her behind off for you
2006-11-23 05:46:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mintee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be as nice & appreciative as you can...
I am sure it will be good enough...
2006-11-23 05:44:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You scum. get a job then atleast you poor ppl won't starve
2006-11-23 05:47:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mr Business 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋