why do i feel so much older?

Question

im twenty four, i have a three year old daughter, and im a stay at home mum. I see other girls my age, looking well. I do have nice clothes and stuff its just like i dont make the effort anymore or if i do i dont want to show too much skin or wear too much makeup, i feel like im too old to be going around like that anymore, but then i think sometimes jeez youre only 24, have any other mums gone through this?

Answer 1

yep its the old growing up faze some people do it some never do but its still important to make an effort sometime but when you are running around after a 3 yr old and mainly being in the company of children all day you just don't want to glam up I'm sure even celebs like to have days off too it is only important if you think it is be happy and enjoy your daughter and your life kids are only little ones and at 24 you've got all the time in the world

Answer 2

ur not alone im 26 and have 3 boys i feel all my mates are having a laff but i aint then again when i do go out i want to be at home as for making an effort i only get dressed upin a classy kind of way short skirts are a no no and i dont know why cus i always look at stuf thats in fashion but i find myself buying practical stuff instead for if im going out you can look nice without dressing tarty though i think these thoughts are just part of being a mum i always remind myself that id rather have my boys than be out getting drunk so i know i made the right choice to have children young no saying i cant go clubbing when im older lol
CHIN UP GIRL UR NOT ALONE

Answer 3

im 24 in march and sometimes i feel like that then i think no no no i am going to make a big effort and then you gradually start to feel a bit better ! its the state of mind you are in at the moment! i feel a bit crap at the moment i have a 2 year old son and im 31 weeks pregnant ! but when i get into my moods that i cant be bothered its hard to break that ! i have to ring my friends and arrange to meet up and i think to myself i am gonna show them that i can still look good after having a baby and pregnant and it does make you feel 100 times better! and maybe get just a little part time job in fashion place or something then you will m ake the effort to go to work and you will meet new people i have just given up work on maternity leave but i am a haordresser and i worked just a thurs and fri and i did enjoy getting dressed for work and having just a couple of days a weeks to gossip and have a laugh! hope i helped chick and good luck xxx

Answer 4

I'm not a mum yet but I am 24 and I sometimes feel the same I was forced to grow up at a young age...... I suggest joining a local group weather it be a full time mums group or a sports group .. so you can socialise with people your age and older you don't need to act 24 as long as you are happy and get some time to yourself ..... good luck

Answer 5

I know EXACTLY how you feel. I am 22 years old and have a five year old. Compared to other girls my age, I feel like an old granny sometimes because I hardly ever do anything but work and spend time with my daughter. I don't go to many parties and I don't go out to the clubs. I have devoted my time to my child and I LOVE IT. But sometimes I feel sort of "left out." But then if I DO get the chance to go out and "party" I find myself being bored and thinking, "this is not me."
I don't dress up very often either. I think this is because we are "toned down" and have gained a degree of responsibility that other people our age don't have and don't need to have because their lives don't need as much order and stability. It makes us feel so much older when we can't be spontaneous and do whatever whenever, and we don't mind it. But every now and then, we WILL feel, "WHY CAN"T WE ACT OUR AGE!!" But don't worry, if you try it out, (being your age) you'll see that you won't feel comfortable with it. I know I didn't!!

Answer 6

Oh yes. I am 24 with a one year old and I can't imagine dressing like those of my age- it's got to the point where I don't go clothes shopping because I know the stuff I see in the shops is going to be too revealing and nasty- I feel old too!
You're not alone, I feel that there are many of us out there :)

Answer 7

I have 20 month old son and I did go through this though only for about 6 months after he was born whilst I was on maternity leave. Back at work I smartened myself up. But yes, I can still feel a bit frumpy etc compared to some of the younger looking slim girls my age but you can only work with what nature has given you! x

Answer 8

My mate was a stay at home mum! She's 26 and has a 5 year old kid. She's only just started going out and it's something that she has pointed out. Now she's feels that she has more time (cos the kids at school) she has started going out and wants to get job. She now says that she feels much younger and yet feels more experianced. It's really helped her.

Answer 9

you are also human!! we all feel like that from time to time hon, my daughter is 10 i had her when i was 23, felt all young and fab then i also have a 4 year old and feel done in, the bags are forming, getting out of bed some days is an effort, but do you know what keeps me going-my girls.
i once had one of my eldest daughters friends say to her "your mum is really pretty and trendy i wish my mum looked like her" there's me hair hardly brushed scruffy clothes on!! everyone looks at you differently, your friends prob feel the same as you

Answer 10

You just need to find yourself again...remember you are not just a mom....you are also a young woman....many off these other girls who dress nice really have nothing on you except they take, and make the time to look good....my advice to you is the slightest chance you get start trying on those nice clothes you have, and look at yourself in the mirror...it may help you to find that spirit within you to make an effort to look good....you deserve to feel good....also try getting out more with your child, and look in the shops...maybe by yourself a piece of sexy underwear that makes you feel good when you wear it...all these things help you to find yourself as a woman again. Good luck.