How do I stay with my man when his mother is driving me crazy. We rent our house from her and everytime she visits she does whatever she wants saying it's her house and she can do as she wants.
She treats my man and his sister like they are children by telling them whether they can loan money from the bank (they are adults) and whether his sister can sleep at her boyfriends house (she is in her 20's)
I love my man but HOW DO I DEAL WITH HIS MOTHER?
2006-11-22 20:43:35 · 10 answers · asked by babycakes 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Talk to your man. If he is worth the love you give him then he will listen to your point of view and try to change things for the better. As for her mother, she sounds like she has issues, try to feel sorry for her because she really should focus on her life instead of her grown up children by now.
Good luck :)
2006-11-22 20:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by jbjvjb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you are staying in that house she will not stop coming and doing what she wants. Go rent somewhere else or buy yourself a house and then make sure when she comes and does what she wants you tell her that is not her house. Some mothers just can not let go of their children even if they know they are grown up. If you can move very far away from her so she thinks twice about coming to your house. She must grow up. Do you ever tell your husband how you feel about his mother, discuss with him and ask him to have a mother son discussion.
2006-11-23 04:58:58 · answer #2 · answered by Joker 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop renting her house! If she is going into your home and saying things like "it's my house" then you should become an adult and rent from anyone else other than family! In some cultures and families, age is not even a factor when it comes to your children... after all to a parent 4yrs or 400yrs... her child will always be her child no matter what the age! If your sister in law still lives under your mother in laws roof...then her rules should be followed..if she does not like it then she can move out, after all she is at the age to be independant and on her own..If your man allows his mother to run things in your own household then the problem is not with your mother in law...but with your man! I stress once again.. Don't rent her house...rent elswhere:)
2006-11-23 05:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have 2 options here -
1. Say nothing and put up with her bad behaviour and let it eat away at your self esteem, or
2. Discuss the situation with your partner and confront her together. Tell her that she is invading your privacy and you don't appreciate it. After all YOU are paying to live in this house. Do you have a tenancy agreement? if so you should ask her to honour the agreement, respect your right to live there in peace, otherwise you are taking legal advice. This may make her realise how invasive she is being.
If you don't sort this out, it will start to affect your relationship with your partner as you may start to resent him not standing up to his mother. I know it is difficult but if you and your partner stick together you will be able to get this awful situation sorted. I wish you all the luck in the world xx
2006-11-23 09:28:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mil just asked us to rent from her and I asked people on here what did they think and I came to the decision it wouldnt be a good idea. If she was mature and had any sense she would think of it as business and treat you two like any other tenant and not think just because its her son she can do what she feels like. I know what youre going through, you need to discuss this with your husband and if the problem cant be resolved then you two might want to move out. Discuss this with him right away before problems get worse and you end up leaving him in his mama's house.
2006-11-23 06:29:20 · answer #5 · answered by Got Curves? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all stand your ground! You are an adult and so is your husbund and if he doesnt have the balls to stand up to his mother then i guess you will have to...There is no reason she should be running your life or imposing on your property...You are paying the rent which means technically no matter if it's her property or not legally she is suppose to notify tendants before even coming to the house..Also biggest advice I can give you is move out of that house as soon as you can....don't let her have a way to control you both...Thing's will be a lot easier on you once your out from under her control...Do not let her walk all over you though it's not ok and let know that..put her in her place! best of luck!
2006-11-23 04:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by thereis 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell you husband your problem..
If he is a man, he will deal with it for you...
If he is boy, he will/can not deal with it and you
need to marry a man next time...
2006-11-23 04:47:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her.
She is being honest with you. Treat her the same way... if she doesn't like it she won't come around anymore...
2006-11-23 04:48:07 · answer #8 · answered by Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very simple....GET OUT OF THAT FREAKIN HOUSE...it is hers so she may come and go as she pleases.....just discuss it with your man and move the F*** out.....
2006-11-23 04:47:40 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-23 04:46:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋