My girlfriend and I have been going out for about 9 months. Every thing has been going well up to this point. Recently, she has had a fight with her parent and will not be spending thanksgiving with them. Normally she would. I told her she was always welcome at my house and invited her. Later, her best friend, invited her and she decided she would go with him. For some reason, this bothered me. I mean, I invited her first and she decided to spend it with her friend at first. Am I making a big deal out of nothing?
2006-11-22 20:36:22 · 7 answers · asked by askewmew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Perhaps she's just nervous about spending a lot of time with your parents - it's always nerve wracking being on your best behaviour for an extended amount of time. I've known my boyfriends parents for 5 years and I still get nervous around them sometimes. You want them to think you are worthy of their child!
Maybe she wants to go with her best mate so that she can feel like she can really relax and not worry if she needs to burp or lets out a swear word or whatever!
I'm sure it's no reflection on you whatsoever. Just ask her, tell her you were a bit hurt by her decision but don't get all accusing! She'll only get defensive and the situation will become worse than it really is.
2006-11-22 20:51:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you recognize that you are, but you know everybody has gone through this at one point or another. You feel a little rejected now, but later down the road that's when the big stuff hits the fan. See it starts out with thanksgiving, but then turns into well I am just to buissy for you right now. You can't always go out on a date because the friends all want to go out. Yeah it gets worse!!
2006-11-23 04:44:33 · answer #2 · answered by foxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would be a little upset also, I think most people would be. However, do not allow this to ruin your holiday, enjoy the day. And later after all is done, have a talk with her, she may have some reason for her choice. God bless****
2006-11-23 04:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really. I would be annoyed too... I wouldnt make a big deal about it now.. Enjoy thanks giving with your family and then discuss it with her later on.... Enjoy your day and don't let her decision spioil the holiday for you.
2006-11-23 04:40:44 · answer #4 · answered by Shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it IS a big deal! i would ask her about it and tell her i'm not happy at all... but maybe she is scared it'll lead to something she'll regret for the rest of her life...
i'ld say, ask her! see whether she has a valid reason... if not, i think she doesn't like you... sorry...
2006-11-23 04:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ur not and did u say she went to another guys thanksgiving!!! ooooohhhh u better watch out 4 him!!!
2006-11-23 04:45:13 · answer #6 · answered by ghetto fabolous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad at her.. just speak to her.. tell her how u feel..
2006-11-23 04:43:50 · answer #7 · answered by julia1975 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋