My 4 year lold is the loudest kid ever. She screams/shreeks constantly. I don't know if the screaming is a girl thing but she is getting on everyone's nerves. I've tried bringing her attention to it, punishing her with time outs, and nothing seems to work. Her nursery teacher asked me if she had a hearing problem. So I had her checked out by a doctor. There is nothing wrong with this child. I'm sure it is for attention but it never seems to stop. Anyone have a similar problem? Help!!!
2006-11-22 20:32:55 · 12 answers · asked by noitall 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
hi there there is nothing worse than this it goes right through you .......ive been here and im sure they realise what affect it has on us ........i used get them involved right from the start get a big bit of paper like A3 and draw a house and get them to help colour it in and put that on the wall and when doing this together make the sky dark and say to them that every time that they do not scream and misbehave at the end of the day she can put 2 stars on the picture and if she gets say 10 stars on the picture she will get a really nice suprize at the end of the week and stick to this and everytime that she is behaving then tell her that you are very proud of how she is behaving and when things go banana shaped as they will do when its a bad day then show her a step that she must sit on or no telly for half and hour and remember that is a long time to a wee girl esp if its her favourite programme hope this helps take care xx
2006-11-22 20:56:07 · answer #1 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend more time with her. Make a calendar and tell her for every day that you don't scream/shreek you will get to put a sticker on the calender. After you have 5 stickers then you will get (something she really likes). Let her know that this isn't good behavior. Tell her you can't scream it's not nice. It hurts my ears. Also the next time you see a child screaming point out quietly to her, see that child it really doesn't sound nice does it? She will get the point. I really do like the calendar. I have done it for homework when the kids get older also and for good grades. The list goes on and on. After a month when she doesn't scream anymore. Switch the stickers to something else she needs to work on. Maybe she could have a chore. Who knows. I hope that this helps you.
2006-11-23 01:32:06 · answer #2 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When mine screamed for no reason I gave her a reason.
I'd like to say I smacked her across the mouth, but in reality, it was just a firm little smack (more like a solid tap), on the cheek to get her attention. Once I had it, I told her if she did that screaming thing again, I'd take her in the bathroom and fire her azz up like a big dog.
Only had to take her to the bathroom once, three swats across the behind, my point was made, and it let her know when momma says she'll do it, she will.
From then on all I had to do was ask if she wanted to go to the bathroom again and she'd settle down quickly.
That was in public. At home I'd take her to my room. It was the punishment room. It was here that she stood in the corner, or faced the wall, or got a swat. I did this for two reasons, one, I didn't want her to feel that a bathroom was a place for punishment, and two, I wanted her to understand that when I took her to my room, she was in deep do-do. It didn't take her long to understand that she could come in my room without punishment, but if I TOOK her there, she'd done something wrong.
2006-11-22 21:00:19 · answer #3 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It seems she may need more attention. Do a few activities with her one on one. Assess if there is something in her life that is suddenly missing (a dad, a sibling, a grandparent). If so, take her to family counseling so you can get to the root of the problem before she starts acting out in other ways.
It may also help to dim the lights in the evening, turn off the tv, put some soft music on and reward her for being more quiet when directed (instead of punishing her when she is noisy).
2006-11-22 20:52:16 · answer #4 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When at home, show her that screaming will not bring attention. By punishing her through time out, you're noticing her. Ignore her, take away anything that she holds dear to her for a day. For example, if she has a doll she is in love with, take it away in front of her and explain that if she behaves, you will give it back to her within a day. If it continues, you keep going. Consistency is the best way to deal with children.
2006-11-22 20:42:12 · answer #5 · answered by determinedpsycona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the plates..... this is the 1st element..........! and in case you're approximately it get rid of something she could desire to throw besides then get rid of your self and anyone else. you're no longer merchandising tickets, that's no longer a instruct. She's doing it for interest and an purpose audience get rid of the two. flow someplace else completely. turn the music up, do something else and whilst she stops ( and he or she would have the capacity to) do no longer tell her off inspite of the undeniable fact that long she's screamed for and regardless of she's broken purely supply her a great enormous hug tell her she's a clever female for combating all via herself enormous smile and a kiss and gently examine her a narrative. no smacks no shouting no punishments this little female is scaring herself scatless and desires you to proceed to be calm and funky and on top of issues each and all the time
2016-10-17 10:36:56 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it could be for attetnion...and obvously it's working. The only way it might stop is if you and everyone around her ignores her when she does this instead of making it an issues. To kids it doesn't matter what kind of attention they get, as long as it's attetion good or bad she gets what she wants
2006-11-23 12:46:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she screams in a public place or in a gorcery store, simply respond with scream right after hers. I guarantee that it will stop because she'll be sooooo embarrassed by you mimiking her. I did this with my 4 year son throwing fits in the store, and trust me to this day he will NOT ever throw another fit in the store !
2006-11-22 20:58:07 · answer #8 · answered by Jennifer T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the same problem, make a board and give her a star when she does something good and take it away for being bad, when she has no stars left take something she loves away IE teddy, fav toy, she has to earn a star two get it back
good luck
2006-11-22 21:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a sock in her mouth?
2006-11-22 20:47:06 · answer #10 · answered by HeyNow007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋