Met him on dating site + we wrote many notes to each other. We have been going out 3 months and are sometimes intimate. He told me he liked me a lot! I told him I liked him more. Had a couple of arguments and he said we should not attempt to deepen our relationship. He still calls, emails, and booked a cruise for us. But he does seem to be cooling off. He also said he will feel badly about our intimacy if the relationship doesn't work out because he is the 1st + only man I've been with in a very long time.
I'm so confused. Does he see me as a friend only? or What??
2006-11-22 19:53:34 · 13 answers · asked by Patricia 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Answer: "All of the above" Including the "what" I seemed to move swiftly from lust to love to like in that order. Now it's what?
Time will tell...but when a MAN says cool it he means "It was fun while it lasted". Move on and learn fromthis mistake!
2006-11-22 20:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by BadBill 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
"Not attempt to deepen our relationship"?? If you don't know what he wants from you than ask him. Don't waste your time wondering. I feel that if you're gonna be in a relationship it'll only keep getting deeper and deeper unless you decide to put an end to the relationship because you found out that you didn't wanna get that deep into it. Either he does or doesn't. If he sees you just as a friend then should there be intimacy? Do you have sex with all your friends? Gets some answer's from him.
2006-11-22 20:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you are looking for a companion and someone to be intimate with. You must not date too much and therefore when you do find a person you will go hog wild. Do not rush into anything. It takes time for a good relationship to come about. If you too are having a lot of arguments will you be able to stand being with him in close quarters on a cruise?
2006-11-22 20:02:04 · answer #3 · answered by cm f 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Forget about the mixed signals that he's sending u, u need to take the initiative and let him kno whats gonna happen between yall...just think long and hard about it and think of everything u are gonna say to him and an answer for every possible question he might ask
2006-11-22 19:58:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetheart88 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
he hates commitment
he is afraid to invest in love
you cant blame him
he likes you - a heck of a lot and cares about you
but he cannot share himself
he just wants to enjoy what you have
and yes,,,,,,for the last part he does not love you that much to let his whole life revolve around you,yes you are a friend, a special friend...but go find someone who would really be there for you
2006-11-22 19:58:56 · answer #5 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He'll feel bad, but really for who? Seems like a push-me pull-me kind of relationship.
2006-11-22 19:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by skunked 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I'd say you need to ask him,and evaluate your own feelings in this because it sounds like you aren't all that certain either.
2006-11-22 19:59:40 · answer #7 · answered by mistique1818 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe he loves you a lot but is afraid that he and you might get hurt badly if you break up.
2006-11-22 19:57:47 · answer #8 · answered by JIK 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why should he feel bad? its like a sympathy date to me.you should save face and just break it off. sorry.
2006-11-22 19:59:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Report him!
2006-11-22 20:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by MamaJupe 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋