What is the best way to make friends without seeming desparate? Right now I dont have any friends that I can hang out with, and I dont go to school so I dont have any real means of making friends. What is the best way?
2006-11-22 18:51:33 · 10 answers · asked by KD 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Where would you like to hang out with your friends, if you had some? That's probably a good place to meet them too.
Regarding your first question, about making friends without seeming desperate, I'll say this. If you are too demanding, as soon as you meet someone, that will tend to drive people away from you. You need to show a little restraint, and refrain from unloading all your problems on people you have just met. Smile. Fake it till you make it.
That is not a consideration, only when you have just met someone. You also need to avoid overburdening people with whom you have established long standing friendships. So, if your question is, "When is it OK to start unloading my problems on these people?", my answer to that is, "Never".
I might be willing to console a friend who has lost a family member in an accident, with the expectation that the person will eventually get over it, and get on with his life.
On the other hand, if I'm approached by a man who seems to want my attention, because his parents didn't pay enough attention to him as a kid, I just want to see how fast I can get away from him. A guy like that is a vampire, who will suck me dry if I let him.
2006-11-22 19:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 23:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get out there and meet pple. Its hard i know. Join a gym, some kind of club, etc. The more places you join the better. School is the best way to meet pple, so know that. Are you working? Can you go out with pple there? Remember this....choose your friends...don't let choose you. Seriously. You only need 1 or 2 good pals. Remember you have to build rapport with pple and then after getting to know them, ask them to go out, preferably doing something you both enjoy. Good luck
2006-11-22 18:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe there are some gorups (lbook club, gym, coffee houses, etc.) that you can join. Do u work? If so is there anyone at the job you seem to have same interest? If so start brining stuff to work that you all like (concert info., etc.), build from there. I also encouraged prayer, b/c God know you want friends and he wants you to have frineds. The bible does say to have friends you must first show ourself friendly! So just ask him to send you friendship and start doing things outside your norm as noted above to expand your opportunity to encounter possible friendships. I promise God will hear your prayer and send you what you desire.
2006-11-22 19:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by BEAUTIFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know how old you are but if you go to meetup.com they have meetup groups in many different states for all intersts. There are dinner groups, football groups, social groups, singles groups, chess group...just about anything you can think of. I move to a new city this summer and ended up joining groups in my area. I met lots of people.
If you are younger...like teenage...I would say to get a part-time job, you could meet people there. Or sign up for a dance class, aerobics class, art class...something you are interested in for people in your age group.
2006-11-22 18:56:51 · answer #5 · answered by c m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to school, and you can make a lot of friends there.
Go to work, and you can make a lot of friends there.
Go to church, and you can make a lot of friends there.
Be nice to people have an open mind.
Don't make fun of people, cause it can hurt you later.
Pray to the Lord God, that he will give you some friends.
Well God Bless You and I hope that You will find some friends.
2006-11-22 19:00:30 · answer #6 · answered by AARON BLACK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try ur hands on yahoo questions and some, if u answered correctly would like u to be their friends.
2006-11-22 18:58:33 · answer #7 · answered by mikejolyemsegun2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw a crazy party or bash with lots of chicks guys alcohol and don't get busted you'll make friends there!!!
2006-11-22 18:54:22 · answer #8 · answered by Elizabeth B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
join groups things you like that way u can have something in common with them! also the club thing doesnt hurt !
2006-11-22 18:53:23 · answer #9 · answered by nessa s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know who you are?
Bye
2006-11-22 18:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋