r looks everything?

Question

my b/f wants me to meet his friends but i dont want tocuz i dont want than to make fun of my b/f cuz im ugly and fat but he doesnt seen to mind so should i care what his friends think?

Answer 1

No you should not care what his friends think.
When you are externally referent, you let other people's opinions determine your self-worth and that is not healthy.

I remember reading a line from "Scoremanship" in 1970. "Only gays need to be pretty." That statement has proven itself true for 3 decades. I might modify it to include movie stars and runway models, but real people do not need to be pretty to be attractive, confident, interesting or fun.

The statement inspired me to quit fretting about my looks and concentrate instead on what is important. Stealing a line from "The Little Prince", "What is important is not visible to the eye."

Think about the things that make a gal attractive. Assert those qualities you have and work on developing those you don't.

This is my answer to a question a few weeks ago on what guys consider attractive.

Attractive personality (typically this means the gal shows interest in HIM)

Attractive looks (This can be broken down to favorite bodyparts and style. Guys tend to be specific about which bodypart they care about. Those interested in pretty faces don't care much about big b...s. How you wear your clothes and present your style. If you look like you could be on a magazine cover, then you're too high maintenance and only attractive to guys with very deep pockets. On the other hand, if your clothes don't fit well or inappropriate for your figure, you're on the bench watching the game.)

Similar interests (Guys that are very fond of beer are more impressed by gals who nix the white wine and get bud. Guys who love football are more interested in gals who know the nicknames of the top 20 college teams and are not interested in gals who can name the last 10 winners of Wimbledon, French open and US open tournaments.)

Food (Yes the best way to a guy's heart is his stomach. If you don't know how to cook, learn. Guys in america tend to be singleminded when it comes to cuisine : generally meat, potatoes, pizza and beer. But if you want him raving to his buddies, invite him over for a dinner of chicken parmesean made with fresh cheese, a tossed salad with greek dressing and feta, boiled baby carrots, and a desert as simple as 2 scoops of vanilla ice cream with a teaspoon of vanilla extract dribbled on top.)

Self reliance & independence ( This is somewhat of a 2 edged sword. Most guys have a need to feel appreciated. If you are totally independent, then they can never do anything for you that you can give them appreciation in return. Similarly, many guys want to feel wanted and not just for their bods. On the other hand, as stated earlier about needy guys, many guys want somebody who will be able to take care of THEM!! Not that they are mommas boys and incapable to live on their own, but ... If you are totally NON self relient and live off big macs, pay a service to clean the apt., and call an electrician to change lightbulbs... You're on the bench too.

Confidence (Shy people who never look a person in the eye and never make an opening comment or first move become invisible. But this too can be a double edged sword. Look a guy in the eye too much and many will be intimidated. Other guys will interpret it as a sexual interest you don't intend. But a gal who holds her head up, speaks her mind, dances like nobodys looking and can take risks.... guys drool)

Answer 2

Looks does help (in my opinion) especially when it comes to sex, however a true relationship comes from the inside and once someone sees the beauty of the person from the inside the outside doesn't matter. Looks are only an added benefit to the person you love. As for your friends...who cares what they think, and if their not supportive for the both of you...then their not your friends!!!