I've made a close friendship with a guy. He was in a long term relationship that ended badly and says he just wants someone to hug/hangout with and watch movies/relax with.
Is this code for he just wants to have sex and no stirngs attached ?
I like him a lot, but would rather wait for him to start dating again.
I havent taken him up on his hints that he'd love to slowly get to know me better.
Should I put things on hold with him until he's ready to date 'normally' ?
Just saying all he wants to do is hang out at home and be romantic/friends strikes me as non commital and asking for heartbreak.
Am I wrong ? He has always been a sweet guy and isnt pushy.
(we're both 29)
2006-11-22 18:47:07 · 15 answers · asked by MeadowMeade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it sounds kinda fishy. youre both mature adults, just ask him about the sex.
2006-11-22 18:49:05 · answer #1 · answered by louie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too was in a similar situation and asked a very similar question about 5 months ago but I must say 5 months later we are so happy together! We are in a committed relationship the sex is great!!!! and I couldn't be happier it took some time but I gave him a shot and am so glad I did! Besides which neither of you are getting any younger and being to per-cautious can end you up alone!
2006-11-22 18:58:28 · answer #2 · answered by milkchclt4u 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be careful, who really knows, but i used to play games with alot of people and hurt many peoples feelings.age is not the issue. there a more things to a good relationship besides sex. I say be yourself take it slow and relax. No is always a better answer that jumping into a sexual relationship that you would end up regretting later. as long as he is not pushing talk it out and slowly let life take shape. Could you see your self growing old and living with him the rest of your life?
2006-11-22 18:54:40 · answer #3 · answered by anthony t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs closure on the last relationship... the things he's asking for are the things he is missing.. DON'T BE THE REBOUND GIRL.
Sounds like you already have figured this out, I'm impressed, good for you..
If you're interested tell him you will be available when he has healed.. until then you are available as a friend only.
I like the way you think, good luck
2006-11-22 18:55:20 · answer #4 · answered by gjm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long term relationships can take a long time to get over. it also sounds like hes sending all the signals that he is not quite ready for another one. keep him close just in case, but don't push anything. find other people to date maybe you'll find someone even better.
2006-11-22 18:51:41 · answer #5 · answered by dianahocat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might honeslty want to know a girl isnt gonna rip his heart out and friendships make the best lasting relationship. don't push to hard or fast for a commitment and if you don't want to sleep with him then dont you can just hang out and be friends.. i know a lot of guys who like having female friends
2006-11-22 18:50:10 · answer #6 · answered by kat.blue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with eddi. Don't get pushy and don't assume things, if he just broke up then he does need someone to kick it with right? heh, but during the first few times you guys kick it, don't give it up. "keep ya head up, legs closed, eyes open."
2006-11-22 18:51:37 · answer #7 · answered by rise2pac 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about it or you'll end up hurt.
he may just need that friend and if you are getting serious you will hurt him as well.
2006-11-22 18:51:12 · answer #8 · answered by mistique1818 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No movies, no hanging out, no nothing. Where the hell are his guy friends. Avoid him until his head clears.
2006-11-22 18:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by JS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude i would bet money that hes usin u for an easy lay, like a transition gurl, and if im wrong then hes ****** up...
2006-11-22 18:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by Fire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋