Let me say first happy T day to all of you.
I have told my boyfriend, that I did not want to see him today or over the Thanksgiving holiday,(both of us will be alone) The problem is that we were going to move in together and he told the ex wife (they have children together) that we were going to move in. She had a emotional melt down. He came back to me saying that maybe we should put off living together till she has time to heal more and become more accepting of our relationship.
I understand, as much as humanly possible.
At the same time, I'm SO tired of his other life..if the master calls (his ex wife) he answers, we were in the middle of getting hot and heavy the other night and he stopped because he knew that that his children would be calling soon.
I feel like she has complete control, I have talked to him about it. He gives me lip service, things will change..blah, blah blah I will make sure that she does not effect our life, yes I love him. But..
2006-11-22 18:43:36 · 8 answers · asked by Sweet T 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
kids will always come first, but your right it does sound like she has total control over him. your hot, find a guy who has a spine and maybe less baggage
2006-11-22 18:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by sufferingnomad 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yep. u re very right. it is tirering and boring. and there is no thing that a man wouldn't do for a woman he loves. if a woman he loves tells do not call your ex wife ever, he should do that. and he surelly can postpone conversation with his kid till after he got to business with u. kid is not going to die if he talks 20 min later with his daddy. but u know what? he is not going to change i bet my sweet tooth on that. cos people never change. he is either very soft and is under his ex's heel still or he still loves her. so in both of those cases why would u need this kind of man? and i don't know how old re u, if it is your picture here u re qute young. so listen to my advice very closely - it is not too late to fall in love with someone else who is much better. it will be much worse when u re 10 years later, have the same problems with him(and u will, whatever he says now) and then u will think that life is over and u re a loser and it is too late to start it over again. so i sugegst just be strong, find someone else. good luck
2006-11-23 02:50:04 · answer #2 · answered by jacky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would liek to submit that it's really not the ex-wife that's causing the issue. The issue is your b.f.'s response which then dictates everything else in your relationship. This is a challange esp. when although they are "ex" on paper, but not "ex" emotionally. U may be running into tat sista'. U got to mae a decision, b/c I have learned that LOVE IT WHAT IT SAYS NOT WHAT IT DOES. Take care!
2006-11-23 02:48:24 · answer #3 · answered by BEAUTIFUL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously his divorce seem fresh. Now your in his life.. You must be providing allot of his needs.. for him to jump soon on living with you.. Keep in mind that its not really a control issue with the ex's and kids.. He is actually dealing with allot!! I see him trying to please you and all of your needs.. However he is also trying to let time heal his ex's sorrow.. He knows that she is hurting from loosing his love and now she can't face you.. Your b/f has compassion don't confuse that with control He must be feeling real bad every time he has to pick-up the kids .. Knowing how your feelings are.. Plus to also face the ex's emotions too...
When you two are engaging in a time of passion.. A man can't really enjoy all that it implies because on back of his mind he know's there will be interruptions..example: the kids calling!
2006-11-23 03:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by FLEXizme 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
happy bird day to you too!!---i think he is the one with the issue problem and the big issue is his ex--doesnt sound like either one is ready for seperate lives---not fair to you---you should tell him to take a hike untill his feelings for the ex is over then come live with me!
2006-11-23 02:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will never be #1 as long as master is in the picture,and it appears that he has not resolved or put boundaries to master that will not be crossed,you said it all in your last sentence...
2006-11-23 02:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
move on before its to late.
2006-11-23 02:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
End it. Things will not change.
2006-11-23 02:48:05 · answer #8 · answered by JS 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋