Okay guys... i know i come here to solve this issue alot but this time i REALLY need help... my ex... Chris... just got out of training for the army... my fiance... daniel is in the army... daniel does not mind if i go out with chris to chill or whatever but i am not so sure... chris is trying to break us up so that he can have me back.... I love both of them with all my heart but my soul belongs to daniel the most... do you think i should go and chill with chris or just leave him alone?.... please help...
2006-11-22 18:36:37 · 18 answers · asked by Babygurl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Chris is obviously your ex for a reason and the fact that the marriage proposal came from Daniel and not Chris says to me that Chris only wants what now he thinks he can't have! Don't drop your hero to give that zero (your ex) a second chance you may end up regretting it!
2006-11-22 18:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by milkchclt4u 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that Daniel is only SAYING he doesn't mind you hanging with Chris, so as not to look like he is jealous or trying to "smother" you. When in actual fact, he probably does! Would you like it if he "chilled" with his X g/f?
I do however think that the best thing you can do is NOT hang with this X, considering how you kinda feel about him still. And especially as you say you KNOW he is trying to break you up! I think your ego is involved here! Feels kinda good to have a guy want you ! So, my opinion, don't "hang" with Chris, as you may end up doing something you may regret later. Stay faithful to Daniel, and tell him you appreciate his trust in you, but that you have decided for all concerned it is better if you wash your hands of the past, and concentrate on your future with him.
2006-11-23 02:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Take some time to think about the situation first,
maybe you should stay away for a while till things cool down.
If you go then mabe you could take a friend with you for back-up just incase you need it.
But I think that if you Love Daniel the most then you should be fine nomatter what Chris throws your way
2006-11-23 02:51:22 · answer #3 · answered by mfranky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If Chris is trying to break up you and Daniel, then you don't need to be around him. If you don't want to be with Chris, then hanging out with him is going to give him the wrong idea. Just gradually lose touch with him. Stop answering his calls and don't call him. If he tracks you down and confronts you about it, then you might want to start carrying some sort of protection.
Good Luck!
2006-11-23 02:40:25 · answer #4 · answered by toothfairy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOUR A DRAMA QUEEN AND GET OFF ON HAVING GUYS FIGHT OVER YOU BY ALL MEANS INSTIGATE IT BY GOING AND HANGING OUT WITH CHRIS. NOW ON THE OTHER HAND IF YOU WANT TO KEEP YOUR MAN HAPPY AND CHRIS AS A FRIEND ITS NOT A GOOD IDEA. BESIDES IF CHRIS IS TRYING TO DO WHAT YOU THINK, THEN HE IS ONLY THINKING OF HIMSELF. BECAUSE IF HE WERE THINKING OF YOU HE WOULD BE ABLE TO SEE THAT YOUR HAPPY AND HE WOULD BE HAPPY FOR YOU AND BOW OUT GRACEFULLY.. WHY DON'T YOU TEST HIM? SET HIM DOWN AND EXPLAIN TO HIM THAT YOU HAVE BEEN GETTING A FEELING THAT HE WANTS YOU AND DANIEL TO BREAK SO HE CAN HAVE YOU BACK, YOU NEED TO MAKE SURE THAT UNDER NO UNCERTAIN TERMS IS THIS GOING TO HAPPEN, THAT YOU AND DANIEL ARE TOGETHER AND GOING TO GET MARRIED. HE WILL PROBABLY TELL YOU HE HAD NO PLAN TO DO THIS AND THAT HE JUST WANTS TO BE YOUR FRIEND. THEN YOU TELL HIM THAT EVEN IF YOU AND DANIEL WERE TO BREAK UP THAT YOU STILL WOULDN'T GET BACK TOGETHER WITH HIM, THAT YOU AND HIM ARE OVER AND YOU JUST WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH HIM. IF HIS WORD IS TRUE HE WILL BE HAPPY TO BE YOUR FRIEND, BUT IF HE HAD OTHER PLANS HE'LL PROBABLY AGREE TO BE YOUR FRIEND BUT YOU WON'T SEE TO MUCH OF HIM AFTER THAT.
2006-11-23 03:16:56 · answer #5 · answered by onejinjer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I will not be with someone that has x' hanging around, been there, done that and it just isn't worth the negative emotions I go through wondering what's really going on when I'm not around... I believe x' should stay x' period. You can be friendly but friends is out of the question...
If your current guy is o.k. with it, I would really question why because this seems to be a pretty basic "guy thing"..
2006-11-23 02:46:35 · answer #6 · answered by gjm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No question, leave your ex alone he sounds like bad news!! Just remember you broke up for a reason, if you are committed to Daniel, then keep it that way, you will be happier in the long run!!!!
2006-11-23 05:05:45 · answer #7 · answered by Bruce d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your heart is to daniel cut ties with chris as daniel doesnt need the aggravation of feeling insecure even if he tells you its ok to hang with chris
2006-11-23 02:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
read what you just wrote with an open mind.... do you see what you are saying ??? you love 2 men, but your soul belongs to D the most ?? what is that ?? you either love D , or you love C.. cant be both, sorry, but CAN NOT !!! I think YOU have a choice to make here..... engaged to one but seeing the other....... Honey , you are cheating on D and don't even know it.... or do you ????????? God bless
2006-11-23 02:42:08 · answer #9 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If Chris really Loved you he wouldn't be trying to break you up with the one who makes you happy, So I say tell him to stop it or we end the friendship .
2006-11-23 02:40:06 · answer #10 · answered by mistique1818 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋