I'm sticking around for the kids.
2006-11-22 18:35:49 · 38 answers · asked by Tommy Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should leave. It's wrong to cheat, not because you owe her anything (you don't), but because you don't want to give her a stick to beat you over the head with. This is a common tactic of women's when they want out of a relationship: to make your home life a living hell in whatever way possible, IE complaining all the time, no sex, no food. Then when you say "forget this," and go and find relief elsewhere, or start staying out late to avoid being at home, she'll go "see, see, this is why I was being so nasty," and use this to justify more cheating and shiftlessness.
Don't wait around trying to figure out what exactly it was that you did to warrant not getting any. She's a woman, in her twisted mind anything you do or don't do is a reasonable excuse for not putting out. If you're not attentive, it's a good reason for not putting out. If you ARE attentive, it's a good reason for not putting out.
Get out of this relationship, and do some yahoo searches on Tom Leykis, Glenn Sacks, and mensnewsdaily to see more of what I'm talking about.
2006-11-22 18:49:15 · answer #1 · answered by Reckless Ronin 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
uh, no. you need validation? someone to say "six months? that's long enough, you've got the green light to cheat"? It is not okay to cheat. That is a stupid question. As for not "putting out" for over 6 months? That's probably due to other things in your relationship. Don't lay the blame for your cheating at her door. If you have an open relationship and set up proper guidelines and don't deceive each other, only then would Irecommend 'sticking around for the kids' otherwise you shouldn't be in a relationship like that. You are deceving your children and the mother of your children. You are disrespecting her and the other woman. You are doing nobody a favor except for yourself. Take a good long look in the mirror and ask yourself what the hell you're doing. You should be talking to a professional or your GIRLFRIEND about this not wasting your time posting dumb, selfish questions on the internet.
2006-11-22 18:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all u should NEVER stick around just for the kids, especially if ya dont get along, and its NEVER ok to cheat. if there is nothing left in the relationship for u two then u need to split. its only going to get worse if u stay just for the kids
2006-11-22 18:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by ♥ gina ♥ 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Better to leave before the relationship gets ugly and then you can still be around for the kids. Ummm, 6 months is too long and something is up. I'd say one of you will probably make it ugly fairly soon, because 6 months is way too long.
2006-11-22 18:42:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi Tommy, Did you talk to your G.F. about what the problem is?
There's always a reason for everything.You need to try and work things out with her and get things back to normal. It's not okay for you to be cheating on her.Maybe that's the problem. She knows you have cheated on her.Anyway, if things don't work out it's best if you leave.Don't hang around for your kids. Work out a deal with your G.B. to see your kids.
Clowmy
2006-11-22 18:57:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Uh no. You should know the answer to this. Shes not "putting out" for a reason, ever stop to think its something you're doing. Do the "kids" a favor and get out of the relationship you apparenltly aren't happy with. It's guys like you that give other guys a bad name it seems.
2006-11-22 18:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by mushroompumpkin 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No way. If your going to want to play around then break up with her. Seriously thats one of the worst things a guy can do. If she doesnt want to have sex then that should be an issue. If you loved her that wouldnt be an issue. Sex is not a big deal. Its just a feeling we have once in awhile. shouldnt affect the way we actually FEEL about the person. If its changed your feelings for her then im sorry to say but i think you shouldnt be in relationships full stop.
2006-11-22 18:38:41 · answer #7 · answered by I wonder 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its never good to cheat, no matter t\what your reasons may be. To only stay with her for the kids is noble, but it isn't right. W hy isn't she giving out any? There has to a legitimate reason for it. Once you know the reason, work on it if you love her. If you don't then leave. Never cheat, especially when there are kids involved.
2006-11-22 18:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
When the sex goes so does the relationship. The kids are better off with one happy parent than two miserable parents and yes, they are feeling the stress and strain. Good luck. Try a trial separation if possible. Good luck.
2006-11-22 18:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by firestarter 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
THAT IS HORRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRIBLE! Do yourself, your wife and your kids a favor and leave. Its better your kids not have married parents then to be raised around an unhappy enviorment. End it before you go out and cheat. That is never the answer or ok to do ... no matter what. Remember...what comes around goes around.
2006-11-22 18:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋