she says f..u to me and more,her boyfriend is a creep from hell and says he hates god,my wife sticks up for my kid every time and says im the bad guy cause i ground my kid for one day after she says f..u to me.am i wrong?
2006-11-22 18:29:13 · 21 answers · asked by john doe 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
When she's 18, kick her out. You're feeding her, clothing her, supporting her, she eats from your table and sleeps in a bed you bought. And she says F you?
There is no justification. No one, not your wife, not your daughter, no one has the right to degrade you like that. Tell your daughter, and kick her out at 18.
She wants to be an adult? Time to live it.
But you need to take some responsibility too. She didn't just start acting this way. You fostered this. You let her get away with crap when she was 12 because you didn't want to be the bad guy. This is the result. So kick her out, but let her know it was your bad.
2006-11-22 19:41:18 · answer #1 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Neither running away from the situation nor criticizing it will "solve" your problem. This has become a complex situation with no simple answer.
I recommend you evaluate your relationship with your wife first. You are both parents together and should be seeing eye-to-eye or at least working together in life, that includes making decisions. How long have you both been together? Do you care for her? Has something significant occurred or changed? Can you both seek the motivation to improve things TOGETHER?
As for your daughter, we all know teenage rebellious behavior is "normal" to a certain safe degree. Yet, it can be painful and damage-inflicting. Simply grounding as a consequence may not show her what you are aiming for her to learn... Perhaps sitting down with her in a conversation, taking her out, offering time to her, or your own way of showing her you care.
Hate, is a lethal word and emotion. Is this what you truly feel toward your family? At times, even those we love can trigger such painful things. Seek professional advice. And know that the entire world goes through the same things. I know I did (from both sides). It was difficult, but there is light at the end.
Recommendations: You can find a counselor, psychologist, social worker, whatever you like and best fits your needs.
http://therapists.psychologytoday.com/rms/prof_search.php
I wish you the best!
2006-11-22 18:58:37 · answer #2 · answered by PithPulchritude 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a 17 12 months previous female myself, i'm at the moment courting a 19 12 months previous. i have properly-known him for over a 12 months yet we've purely been courting for some weeks. i'm from the U. S. its no longer truly seen a something incorrect right here. yet in united statesa. i wager its a distinct tale. in the adventure that your daughter is chuffed then i'd go away them be, see the way it is going for them. Its purely a 2 12 months huge difference so no longer something large - i'm hoping this helps, yet yeah, she's surely an human being now so i'd purely enable her get on with it. My father and mother are 3 years aside age smart - so its no longer something to be annoying about
2016-11-29 09:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say you hate your wife? Why not get a divorce? Hate is terrible. you and your wife need to be on the same page for the kid. you should never be on different sides on things like bad language. If your daughter is acting like a jerk, why not call a family meeting at the dining room table and express your feelings in a reasonable way. Like "my feelings are hurt when my daughter tells me to f off" I am upset with my wife because of ...... and now please tell me your things and then lets all try to find away together to solve the issues. A wife and a husband need to be united in parenting.
2006-11-24 16:33:20 · answer #4 · answered by bud88cynthia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
Your 17 old daughter will be an adult when she reaches her 18 birthday.
More over, she is a teenager and it seems you have need for better communication. She needs to develop language that express her feeling and frustration.
You need to listen more and talk less. You are the adult, so don't act like a child.
As for her boyfriend, let it alone. He will go away in time. She most likely is looking for a boy that has many characteristics of her Dad.
2006-11-22 18:38:22 · answer #5 · answered by J. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your family has bigger problems than just your daughter's behavior. I am especially concerned about the relationship between you and your wife. I recommend that you all get help from an ecclesiastical leader and/or family counselor. I sincerely hope that you can all learn to be a loving family.
2006-11-23 08:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your wife need to handle your feelings on this subject in private away from your daughter and stand united when speaking to her. Kids will push you to your limits.... Your wife may need some therapy cause if she lets your daughter talk that way she is just as angry as the child.
2006-11-23 16:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by purrfectsandcastle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Man ,Get out of that situation!You are trying to control something that has apparently went way off the hook.When I was seventeen my Butt was in boot camp FT Knox Ky.wishing I was back home.Kick them all out with an ultimatum.Stick to your guns if you don't want to live a long nightmare,take evasive measures now or you will go crazy! Good Luck.!!
2006-11-22 18:39:28 · answer #8 · answered by one10soldier 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as though you & your wife did some pretty poor parenting. Just the way you've given your question says a lot about you. Your daughter's behavior is a result of your parenting. Children go through phases but children raised with parents who show their love & appropriate discipline wouldn't think of calling their parents names & wouldn't think of dating someone who would either.
2006-11-23 03:07:53 · answer #9 · answered by Judith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A lot of kids have been raised to be disrespectful, self serving little pig monsters. It's kind of too late to train them once they "know it all." I wouldn't give her any cash by the way. Oh yeah.. if you hate your wife, save yourself from a life of misery. You're not getting any younger. Leave that b!T@h and start on a new life journey... without those heifers.
2006-11-22 18:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋