there is this guy i work with who is a really sweet, nice caring guy. and he keeps asking me out. but the problem is i have a boyfriend and we are very happy together. i've explained this to my co-worker, but he still keeps asking me. i don't know what else to do? how do i tell him no but still keep a friendship with him, or is that even possible? we are friends, but dating him would just be weird. especially since i already have a boyfriend and i'm not looking to change anything. any advice?
2006-11-22 17:47:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just be honest with him and tell him that if and when you are interested in dating someone other than your boyfriend that you will tell him. And if he keeps asking it is making it less and less likely that if and when that time comes that you will not be asking him.
2006-11-22 17:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by questioningly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how much of friend he is, if he is disrespecting the relationship u have clearly reminded him of (your boyfriend). U may have to just be a little more firm and tell him I'm flattered you want to date me, but you know I'm seeing ****, I've tried to polite about it, but you continuing to ask me is disrespecting me, our friendship, and my reationship with my byfriend. And if you can;t stop doing that we're going to have to cool our friendship, because I don't think a true friend woudl do that or put me inthat type of situation.
Now when he repsonds you will know how to go from there. If he says I;m sorry i'll stop an dhe does, then forgive him and move on in your friendship, but I would certainlybe careful to make sure cross signals ar enot made on your part(not saying u r doing this). IF he continues, start ignoring him, he'll catch the drigt. Hope it helps!
2006-11-23 01:53:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is difficult. Well, if you are in any way attracted to him then rather keep away if you do not want it to interfere with your boyfriend. It's safest. Also what does you boyfriend have to say about the situation? I don't believe he'd be too keen on you being friends with a guy that does not respect your no being no and interfere's with your relationship with your boyfriend. That is it if your friend can not respect your relationship with your boyfriend then he is no friend at all. Sure he asked once and you explained the situation, but now he is just messing with your head. You've been polite and can try again, but think its beyond being polite and worrying bout his feelings now.
2006-11-23 01:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by LA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your boyfriend over there, let him give your friend the low down, after that there shouldn't be a problem, or you could tell him some really fake excuse like your therapist advised you not to date.
2006-11-23 01:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Sensei 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are serious about your current boyfriend, then it isn't really cool to have other guy friends. you could invite your co worker out with your boyfriend for lunch or something if you wnted to keep the friendship and make the point.
2006-11-23 01:50:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say hey I dont think of you as more than a friend. To be honest Iam already talking to somebody and I really like the person Iam talking to.
2006-11-23 02:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by hclover21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like you said no already. If he keeps it up tell him that if he can't be friends with you then there is going to be no communication, you got a man already. But if it don't work out I bet he will always be there!!!
2006-11-23 01:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've tried being nice and that didn't work. Tell him you already said you will not go out with him. What part of that doesn't he understand? Ask him why is he harassing you about this? Tell him you're sure management would not understand.
2006-11-23 01:51:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to make it a serious statement next time he asks. tell him u have a bf and you are happy being with him. just make it straight out. it may ruin your friendship but i think it would get him to stop
2006-11-23 01:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
by being honest dont beat around the bush nobody likes lame excuses
2006-11-23 01:49:13 · answer #10 · answered by Bazil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋