Me and my girl had this debate but hopefully it doesnt happen and of course her opinion was different than mine.Say you have a boyfriend and there was a guy who you worked with and he gave you a Victoria Secret Gift Bag,would you except it?Now we know they sell different things there but there mainly know for there intimate clothes.Obvioulsy no guy would buy you this unless he liked you.SO,you know the guy likes you,would you take the gift?Would you think its OK?If so,then you can tell your man, right?Could you understand why any man would get upset?Knowing that your man would be upset would you still take it? Guys are you with me on this?
2006-11-22 17:40:24 · 18 answers · asked by Sincere923 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is upsetting but it's not that big of a deal to be honest. I mean, if he has feelings for her yet knows she has a boyfriend, he should not get her such a gift to begin with, If there was an occasion, it is a bit justified though. Theoretically speaking, she should not take the gift, but sometimes you are put in a situation when you just cannot deny a gift, could be just because you did not see it coming and your mind did not work fast enough. Whether she should tell you or not really depends on her estimation, if she knows you're understanding she could tell you, but if she thinks it will extremely bother you she might decide not to tell you, especially that it is completely meaningless to her.
As i said, sometimes you're mind does not work fast enough and lead you to reject a gift and you just accept it without thinking, but later on she can, if she sees that appropriate and in her own way, show him these gestures are not really welcome.
2006-11-22 17:52:23 · answer #1 · answered by rinah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no matter what the gift is i think it would be strange to accept gifts from any person that was not a close friend. Is this guy just a co-worker or a close friend? However, why would any guy feel a need to buy a suggestively "sexy" gift for a girl who has a serious boyfriend. It seems a little shady. That's all, I guess. It's a pretty strange debate. Good luck.
2006-11-22 17:52:53 · answer #2 · answered by utopiansara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it isn't OK to take a gift like that and why would a guy give such a gift to a female.For a man to give something like that to a co-worker he had to get some kind of hint from her that she likes Victoria Secret underwear. That means they have talked about personal things and that leads into other things if you no what I mean.
2006-11-22 18:17:27 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a married woman I would kindly refuse such a gift. Accepting a gift from certain people may leave a person feeling that they owe that person something. It is inappropriate for a man to give a gift such as that to any female in the workplace, especially with all the sexual harassment laws these days. If you value your relationship with the person you are with you would not place yourself in this situation.
2006-11-22 17:47:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you gotta a lot of questions in there and the answer can go different ways too. if you know your man would be upset if you took it then no, i wouldnt accept it. then again it could be fine if you took it only out of politeness, worse thing is you could always return it. oh and i would definitely tell my man if i received a gift from someone, its not right if you dont. well i hope that works for you, its a tough question.
2006-11-22 17:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by mink_kat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah........you are right I would not accept any gift in the first place and if I were a moron to do so then i would give it back on recovering my sanity. I would also inform my BF.
No self respecting man would accept this. Neverthelass if you love her then forgive her if this is the first time she has done this. If this has been happening regularly then what are you doing in her life!
2006-11-22 18:06:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is, i would have made it clear to the guy that i wasnt into him and that i couldnt except his gift if he refused.....of course i would take it!! But i wouldnt get mad at the girl for excepting VICTORIA SECRET anything.lol.but thats just me.i mean if a girl that you knew liked you gave you a gift like.....some cologne or whatever isnt that what you would do?you should remember to have faith and trust in her and ask her if she let him know she wasnt interested in him.
2006-11-22 17:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by tammyb752001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt
knowing, that of course MY man would buy me whatever I wanted from Victorias Secret... and I'd let him know bout the guy i(f I didn't like him n he was harrasin me) so my bf could open up that can of whoop azz..lol.. BUT if ur gurl took it maybe she lyks him?? But it IS victorias Secret..it would be hard turning that down!!
SO just forget it and buy her sumthing better!!!
2006-11-22 17:48:55 · answer #8 · answered by XxON3LOV3xX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'd take the bag. But then I'd go home and say "hey, honey, close your eyes and count to ten, cause I got a surprise..." then walk out wearing it. LOL.
The guy at work, who cares? She came home to you, right? He got YOU a present if you think about it! Stupid guy. I'd feel sorry for him and not jealous. He spent his money, but you get to have all the fun with it. Joke is on him.
2006-11-22 17:45:53 · answer #9 · answered by sandostrich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i were the boyfriend of the girl who recieved this gift, i would thank the guy who bought it because he just bought your girlfriend a gift that only YOU can appreciate.
Its no big deal.
2006-11-22 17:43:37 · answer #10 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋