..a friend of mine is planning on bringing booze over to a friends house of mine, and i told her no1 probably really drinks, but she felt like bringing some anyway and said if worse comes to worse..no1 drinks it..she will have some to drink for the weekend.
but from what i was told, doing that is rude. is this true?
2006-11-22 17:36:35 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
Yes, that is considered rude. She is bringing the booze as a GIFT to your friend's house. You don't take back gifts. Maybe no one will drink it then, but who says they won't drink it later? This was a good question, though.
2006-11-22 17:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how close your friend is to you. If you are close then it is OK. Another thing to watch is, if your friend is close but you go over and there are a couple of people you don't know, at or well, then leave the booze. You don't want to set an impression that your friend has cheap friends.
And ofcourse if you aren't close to the persons whose house you are going to, and you really want to carry a bottle, make sure it is atleast a decent wine and you put it in a wine bag.
Take beers/alcohol along only to close friends. Or ask your host if they would like for you to get anything. You do this ussually when a lot of people are expected and the host would have to pay a packet on booze.
2006-11-22 17:55:10 · answer #2 · answered by Starguru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Often people bring "a" bottle of wine as a gift for the host(ess) who invites them over for dinner or a party. If the guest took back the single bottle of wine he/she bought for the host if it wasn't drunk by the end of the party...that would be rude.
The situation you are describing is a little different. Your friend is volunteering to provide a supply of liquor for the party guests and plans on taking what isn't used back at the end of the party. I have no problem with that scenario. It's not any different than someone who brings a covered dish to a party and takes whatever is left at the end of the dinner back home.
2006-11-22 17:49:30 · answer #3 · answered by kathy_is_a_nurse 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is rude to give someone a gift and then if you think that they aren't enjoying it enough, to take back that gift and enjoy it yourself. It really doesn't matter what the gift is. Of course, when someone gives you alcohol as a gift at your home you should probably ask them if they would like some tonight, or if you should save it for later.
2006-11-26 15:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jeffrey M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definatly rude, back in the day I used to hold parties specifically so I could fill my fridge/drinks cabinet!
Seriously, as has been pointed out, from an etiquette point of view, it is seen as a gift to the host in these situations, and therefore remain at the party.
2006-11-23 00:10:23 · answer #5 · answered by Pope my ride! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be rude as bringing alcohol to a party is considered a gift to the host.
2006-11-24 05:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by COACH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it's rude. But, it also depends on what kind of event, party or gathering it is. If it's mosty just friends and everyone knows one another, I'd take whats left back home with myself. Because, if no ones going to drink it, thats a waste. Now, if it's more of a getting to know people party or something, I'd leave it and people that doesn't know you wouldn't think your where rude.
2006-11-22 18:12:08 · answer #7 · answered by Carolinablues 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is rude and ghetto. First of all, when giving a gift to someone, the likes and dislikes of the recipient should be most important. Why is your friend taking alcohol to someone who doesn't drink? Just so she can take it back home??
Tacky.
2006-11-22 21:11:37 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
G'day Secret-stranger,
Thank you for your question.
If you bring a bottle of liquor, it is a form of thank you to the host like bringing chocolates or other gifts. It is therefore considered rude to take it back. Hopefully, your friend was joking.
Regards
2006-11-22 17:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is rude. When you take alcohol to a party and offer it to everyone to consume, then that is considered a gift, so it should not be taken back.
2006-11-22 17:46:13 · answer #10 · answered by the_fatmanwalksalone 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋