we cant seem to stop fooling around. and we havent had sex since but its really hard for both of us. and kissing usually leading to us both getting realy horny and wantign sex..but we know we cant. so what are some things we can do when were alone, thats not sexual? we want to stay stonge but were finding it hard to. PLEASE HELP!!!
2006-11-22 17:28:26 · 11 answers · asked by FairChild 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
keep in mind hes only 17 and still in hs..were not getting marrried for at least a year or soo...
2006-11-22 17:33:54 · update #1
ohh and im 19 and graduated in 2006.
2006-11-22 17:41:14 · update #2
WHEN YOU GAVE YOUR LIFE TO JESUS , THE ANGELS REJOICED AND A THUNDEROUS ROAR WAS HEARD. GOD IS OMNISCIENT, HE KNOWS THE NUMBER OF HAIRS ON OUR HEADS AND THE NUMBER OF SPARROWS IN THE AIR.
FATHER WE PRASIE YOUR HOLY NAME AND ASK THAT YOU PUT A HEDGE OF PROTECTION AROUND THESE TWO, GIVING THEM THE STRENGTH THEY NEED TO OBEY AND COMPLY WITH YOUR WILL. THAT YOU ASSIGN HOLY ANGELS TO WATCH OVER AND PROTECT THEM, THAT YOU KEEP THEM IN YOUR HOUSE WHEN NECESSARY AND THAT YOU EASE THEIR WANTS AND DESIRES. WE ASK IN JESUS NAME.
I'LL BE PRAYING FOR YOU BOTH!
GOD BLESS
2006-11-22 17:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by thewindowman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, praise God for you all having a mind to give your life to the Lord. Let me tell you the one thing I woudl suggest woudl be you all need to not be alone at least for a while. You all are new converts (even older converts can fall), but you all are grwoing in the knowledge and spirit fo Christ. There are situations that you all shol dnot place your self in that will cause you to consider falling into sin. If kissing is too much fo ryou all to handle w/out falling into lust, then you all do not need to kiss until that is under control through the Holy Spirit. Go on group dates, change the type of activities you all do, make them things where you have to be w/ others. Consider getting involved in the church you are apart of activities/minitries, etc. If you all keep yourself out of those situations that YOU KNOW will set you all up, God will honor that and keep you all. It is normal to want to be intiamte, esp. since you all were previously, but this walk with Christ which you committed to is a special and wonderful one, but no one said it would be easy. But even in that God has predestined you all for greatness. There are others God wants you to reach w/ the testimony that God will keep you from falling back into sin, when you turn your entire life over to him. Continue ot pray and seek God for his answers and help. If you want to stay connected with me and an encourager for you and your friend, feel free to email me, God Bless.
2006-11-23 01:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
know your limits. if your doing something that could lead you to make a bad decision, don't do it. if heavy making out leads ou to want to do other things... stick to closed mouth kisses. please understand that your sexual desires are completely normal and healthy but just because you have an itch doesn't mean that you should scratch it. god made sex for marriage and i applaud you for taking a stand especially in this day and age. a good rule of thumb is to not touch anywhere that a bathing suit would cover. this will help keep you both in check. just enjoy each other company and get to know each other better. your relationship will be stronger because of it. god bless.
hold hands, hug, cuddle, talk, read the bible together.
2006-11-23 01:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by Meaghan L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are both of you.
The ways to avoid is to be in groups and among family and friends and spend time in open areas, like picnics, shows, shopping centres and not to stay late into night. I am sure you can control for 12 months.
Good Luck
2006-11-23 01:35:24 · answer #4 · answered by sonisunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is soooooooo difficult. My fiance and I were living together when we got saved. It was extremely difficult. There is a fine line because you want to show affection without getting too heated up. Other than hugs and nice kisses was about all we could handle. Glory to God we are now married. All I can really say is PRAY, PRAY diligently for God's help. Goo luck
2006-11-23 01:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by rufi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Everyone is doing it, period. I don't care what the people at your church say they have done or are doing, everyone is in your situation. Need proof? My sister goes to a private Christian university. 4 girls in her dorm had to drop out because they got pregnant (in comparison, at my State University dorm, no one got pregnant or got anyone else pregnant).
Go with the flow, if it happens it happens, if you manage to control it every once and again, that's good for you. Don't worry about it though, if you start contemplating life philosophies like that, you'll end up going in circles and making yourself crazy.
And for God's sake use a condom! Neither of you is ready for a child yet.
2006-11-23 01:33:08 · answer #6 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it's hard to do that, trust, but for real if y'all are saved just do something productive, go out, do community service i mean ur boyfriend and girlfriend and yes ya hormones go crazy,well think about jesus if he saw what yall was doing before marriage, he wouldn't be too pleased so that could help, my friend is going threw the same thing and that's what he thinks about to help him and his girlfriend. hope dis helps.
2006-11-23 01:32:55 · answer #7 · answered by chica bonita 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude hold out I'm going through the same thing we just normal go out in public so we are not tempted as much haha plus you could be arrested since he is under age right lol
2006-11-23 01:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by *PEACE BEGINS WITH A SMILE* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this will sound crazy but stop hangin out alone together, always have a friend around, or another option, get married!
2006-11-23 01:32:38 · answer #9 · answered by rocker dude 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It his hard to resist our carnal urges. They told us in college to take a cold shower and slam the door on it.
2006-11-23 01:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by chaser_downer 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋