i lived with the most amazing guy for 3 years, we did everything together. i was so happy & in love. in february he came to me to tell me he felt too crowded & wanted space, then he took off for a week snowboarding. he came back & things were great until july when he did the same thing. only this time 2 weeks later he said he was moving out & he really needed a break fr this. he said he didn't want a permanent break. in aug he moved out. i ended up moving back in w/ my parents 3 hrs away, got a job, & an apartment soon after. 1 mth later i desparetly needed to come back to the city. he said he'd sign a lease w/ me, and "may" end up moving back in. i fell for it, cuz i thought things would work out. well, it's now 2 mths later&we hang out 2-3 times a week & well, stuff happens, lol. but he still says he needs this time to focus on school & doesn't have time for a "relationship" again right now. there's not a day that goes by we don't talk.what does agirl do when shes desp in luv w/ him?
2006-11-22 17:23:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
perhaps the most profound advice I can give is:
I don't know.
sorry. I wish I did, because I have the same problem.
I'm in love. the woman I love won't have me for very practical (and purely logical (GAAHHH!) reasons)
so... yes...
my advice is hold on tight, dig in your nails and don't let go (metaphorically, he might get pretty pissed if you did this in practice)
AT any rate...
love him, and maybe he'll be able to love you back.
maybe you should try to formulate a logical argument as to why you guys should be togather eh?
lol worked for me once... (for a while)
you've also got to assure him that you won't be a distraction, that you'll merely be supportive, and you've got to understand when he's busy. remember, he doesn't control his life, his school does (personal experience), so no matter how much he wants to hang out with you, he may have work to do, and be forced to do it.
2006-11-22 17:30:31 · answer #1 · answered by The greatest and the best. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on kiddo no matter how hard. He's tried it and it didn't sustain him so no amount of love on your part can change that. If he's still hanging out and lots of stuff is happening but he doesn't want to move back in then he is simply using you.
Do you love him so much you want to be used. He will cast you aside one day and it will hurt even more then. So take the initiative and find someone who deserves your love.
2006-11-23 01:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by margo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Quit moving in with him. Have your own life. Tell him your moving on and are going to date others. Or you could keep letting him play head games with you and using you when he wants you and throwing you away when he doesnt.
2006-11-23 01:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hes not willing to fully commit..he wants to hang out when he wants to and be free when he wants. If that works for you go for it. If you want a solid relationship and a commitment I would move on ASAP!
2006-11-23 01:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by c m 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
get over it, your better off...all that
2006-11-23 01:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by dwill604 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋