my son is very weak agrressive destructive but very intelligent. how do i make him healthy and well behaved?

Answer 1

Just make sure that he is not playing or prying with things that he will get hurt with. If you tell him no on these items and he still goes for them then give him time out.
The rest you have to let slide.
My son is the same way. I took him to the grocery store. Of course he was running all over the place. Poking signs, picking up items that he wanted etc. As he was poking at one of the signs I had a older woman come over to me. She looks at me and tells me. What a delightful child, What a curious, mind. He is the type of child that me as a teacher loves to have in class because he wants to learn. Children like him can be very frustrating for the parents because of all the exploring they do.
Those words that she told me that day gave me a prospective.
Just knowing that he is learning. As long as he is not hurting anybody or going to hurt himself. He is learning.
So it's not the he is not well behaved or healthy. He is exploring and learning.
I hope those words she shared with me might get you to see things in a different prospective as it did me.

Answer 2

I can tell u that your son is not very popular at the school or wherever you r taking him he probably gets picked on alot if he's young he needs a strong male figure around the house theres nothing you can do really; but confort him its not easy getting picked on. PS: he takes out his agression on you because of his personal problems. the best way u can fix him is by having a strong male role model around he might still be weak but his selfesteem and charisma will help him grow into a man this is why sisi homosexuals dont make good parents well somedont... Don't wanna offend anybody by the way pick me as best answer..

Answer 3

hi, how old is your son (that really does make a difference.) if he is in his teens blame the hormones plus his way to seek attention.
if he is younger say 5-10 have you noticed how he behaves at school/class, because children who are the best students at class/outside vent out all their feelings,frustation,aggression at home (from personal exp. my son is very 8+,intelligent,hyper,the best student in the class at home his the disorganized...
There could be lot of things that are making him that way.
1.problems with peers. 2. family if he watches somebody agressive, he may think it is the right thing to do.
3.may be he is enjoying being agressive and destructive. you should make it very clear that if he destroys something he will not get it back. and he has to pay for the same from his goodies,pocket money.
4.I just made a calender in my son's room saying that he will get a cross if shows tantrums/destroys somethings/something he is not supposed to do. and a tick if he is neat,eats healthy,keep his books clean. so at the end of the week/month we count the no of cross and ticks. if the ticks are more we give him a treat say a new book.
5. we cite examples from the mahabaratha,ramayana and all as he is voracious reader.
But the most important thing, is may be he wants your undivided attention. you have to make him understand that he is the most precious thing to you. if that does not click talk to him, in one of those good moods, they will come out with what is really troubling them.

parenting is trial and error, with lot of patience, doing things by setting examples.

best of luck

Answer 4

Your son is aggressive and destructive --as he is weak or may be as he is having this problems--so all his energies gowaisted over there and finally become weak.So find out why his behaviour is like this.Then give him moral support and also give him enough time.Nowadays parents are busy with their own amusement and work and keep asisde their children with their servants.And they even dont have time to ask what is their problem and so on.Please give some time for your son.It will serve to solve ur problem.

Answer 5

I had a son like that too. The aggression and destructiveness is often a way of saying I'm bored - what can I do.
We kept our son busy with plenty of positive things he could do.
When he was very small lots of different types of toys & games + swing, bike, etc. He loved music so he had toy instruments and lots of books & puzzles as well.
As he got older he got invovled in things like sports teams, cub scouts, school music & bands, and family, scouting and school camps.
He ended up doing very well on his way through school - always in the top 3 -4 of his class and ended with a good uni degree.
You need to take every opportunity to praise & encourage him.

Answer 6

I have a son who was very much like that when he was little. We eventually found out that he had severe food allergies and low blood sugar problems. It might be a good idea to get your son's blood sugar checked and also make sure that he isn't having adverse reactions to foods he is eating. My son's behaviour improved drastically when we changed his diet and now he is very healthy, happy and a joy to be around.

Answer 7

I recently read a book that helped me deal with my son. "How to talk so Kids Will Listen So Kids will Talk". they also make a teenage version. Most of the advise in it has helped. at times I have to modify it, though.

Answer 8

Let him go to music classes, karate classes etc. Disperse his energy in creative things.

Good luck!

Answer 9

I have the same problem with my little girl.I think intelligent kids are low in their e-q.

Answer 10

Explain to him the benefits of good behaviour. You could also reward him for good works.