I feel, in order to get to know a person truthfully without them tell me their life story is to go through their house. Most dudes trust me alone because I am a trust worty person. (not to take anyone belongings)
I was all alone at a dudes house and i found a camara with him having sex with multiple woman without condoms. I am glad that i did-what i did before i slept around with this dude. I never talked to him ever again, but he felt it was wrong to snoop through his things.
Then there are other situations where i have went through a mans house and found nothing. Well; except the average porno. Which i find normal.
After dating him I told him I have went through his house. He felt it was wrong but I disagreed.
what do you think?
I do it because i want to know what type of person i'm dealing with. For my own safty!
2006-11-22 17:15:49 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree!!I would do that to!!its better to be safe then sorry!
2006-11-22 17:18:16 · answer #1 · answered by tpoof 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what thats a good Idea. I mean everyone should participate. Now I think that you should have said something to the guy before you kicked it with him, then he would have got to know you as well so the two of you would have been able to respect each other's feelings, but kudos for the nosy. You should know what type of person you are getting involved with. Now that method is sneaky, but it is obvious that you may have felt that you could not just trust this person, give benefit over doubt, and I guess we all have our right to be suspicious cause nobody can seem to be honest these days, but you forgot to mention how you got in the house! Were you house sitting, did he know you had access, cause if he left you in his house alone then he should have known you were gonna need some sugar and look for it in his closet! ya know
2006-11-22 17:29:06 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Twissta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically I never have looked through someone stuff. The guy I was dating recently was getting late night calls from girls etc so I began to not trust him. I didnt necessarily snoop, but I did peak at things that were out. Like a paper on his coffee table etc. I dont now if I would do it without some kind of shady happening before. And I wouldnt open drawers and stuff. If its out I feel like they wouldnt care if i saw it.
2006-11-22 17:25:39 · answer #3 · answered by c m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well. The old cliche' when you look for trouble you usually find it comes to mind. I was in a relationship and I did the same thing to my bf. I went through e-mails and voice mails and confirmed my suspicions, but in the end, I still love him and I still want to be with him, but he doesn't trust me. In the same relationship, he went through my things and was questioning me about a letter that I wrote to my kids father 4 years ago that was dated and signed and I didn't like that at all. So, if you would be OK with the consequences then no you are not wrong.
2006-11-22 17:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by Sexcchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sista.
I think that's kind of wrong. I do understand your reasoning, but the point in dating is to get to know someone. If you (meaning u and the guys) are not having real conversations w/ these fella's (not spitting game) really getting to know them b/f you allow them to attach their spirit to yours. I think if you're snooping you kind of already feel like the dudes you are talking to have some degree or level of untrustworthiness. Hold off on the sex part and really take some time to know these guys. You're giving away a precious special part of yourself to someone and what's wrong in their spirit is attaching to you. Hold on sista and hold out!
2006-11-22 17:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can certainly understand being concerned about your safety, but I still don't think going through someone's stuff is right. I think it's important to take a really long time to get to know someone to build up trust. I hope everything works out well for you.
2006-11-22 17:20:14 · answer #6 · answered by cotopaximary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, here're some thoughts you could think through:
would you like your good friend to look through your things after you allow him/her to stay at your house for awhile? i think not.
and for safety purposes, i would try something else that will work better than losing a person's trust in you--date the guys but do NOT allow them to have sex with you no matter what. either wait for after marriage and be firm about that, or wait until you strongly feel that they've EARNED it (ways they earn it? by helping you out, treating you nicely, being patient and understanding, helping to solve relationship problems, listening, and respecting your every wish).
hope these aspects got you thinking :)
2006-11-22 17:42:54 · answer #7 · answered by wat_more_can_i_say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK as Long as turn about is fair play, but really I also think it is sneaky and not at all trustworthy, you just like to snoop
2006-11-22 17:19:31 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the wrong way to find out about a person. Pay to have PI follow him for a couple of weeks. I would kick your *ss if you did that to me. DON'T LOOK FOR WHAT YOU DON'T WANT TO FIND IF YOU CAN'T TAKE IT.
2006-11-22 17:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would snoop a little too, but I just wouldnt tell him about it, unless I had to, which of coarse you had to.. I dont think its ok I guess..lol
but id still do it
2006-11-22 17:18:52 · answer #10 · answered by ~Kim~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, that is highly bad to go through someone else's stuff. if he invited you there, i guess it might be ok. if you just went in without his knowledge, that's not just morally wrong, it's illegal.
2006-11-22 17:19:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋