why are guys so mean?

Question

guys are so mean the school i go to all guys care about are looks even if a girl has the biggest heart and is a little over weight guys dont even glance in her direction i should know cause im one of those gurls and i hate it i dont care about fitting in i just hate it that guys are so judgemental why is this?

Answer 1

Guys are like that because it has to be all about them. In their minds, all that is important is them. It is as if the whole world revolves around them.

Answer 2

Because most guys out there are shallow. But even the ones that aren't, still want SOME chemistry before they consider a relationship.

If a guy is nice and he doesn't think you're cute, then he'll be friends with you. Then he might change his mind once he gets to know you.

If a guy is your average jerk, then unless you act really slutty, he won't notice you and if he does, he'll only have one thing on his mind.

Confidence is also a big thing here. YOU need to believe that you are good enough for the guys out there, then they'll start to believe it too.

So what I would do is first give yourself a fair assessment. Grab a couple of your girlfriends that you truly trust to tell you what they think. Ask them to rate you on a scale of 1 to 10 lookswise and what they think you can improve and how. If they rate you really low, then maybe you really do need to work on yourself a bit. Don't give up. Weight is not that hard to lose when you're commited to it. I've done it myself.

If they rate you above average, then it's just a confidence issue. Know that you look alright and you've got a heck of a personality and you're a great find for any guy out there. Once you believe it, they'll believe it too and you'll have more attention than you know what to do with.

Good luck, sweetie.

Answer 3

guess what- girls can be mean and judgemental as well. I don't believe any gender has a monopoly on these.
Are many guys superficial- placing looks above other perhaps more important things? Hell yes...initially. Then he, unless he's a total putz will want the inner gifts as well. You'll find this out more as you grow.
Aditionally it's really easy to notice if someone has a nice body and is good looking. It takes much longer to appreciate and discover a heart of gold.
Oh yeah, a lot of young immature guys will definetly place a much higher priority on the looks, but even as they get old will still notice those first (and want them).
I really don't think it's so much an issue of meaness but rather human nature. Please don't become a man hater- it won't do anything for you.

Answer 4

Those guys at the school are still young and naive at how the world out there operates. U r beautiful in your own way, feel good about yourself, walk upright, smile to the world and the world will smile back at you.

U dont cease to be beautiful coz you are overwieght somebody someone sincere gonna come your way. Dont let this thing of them not looking in your direction put u down.

Answer 5

women are the same way...

its not a, men are/women are, type thing,

its that human kind has ALMOST always mated for looks,
though theres always been people who seek mates that
make them feel good.
that group of people is shrinking, thier always gona be around
but they are a small few and are hard to find

the thing to remember is that, yea looks are and ALWAYS will
be a factor in, "the game of love" but looks dont have to be the
main factor,
when looks isnt the goal, personality is almost always the
deciding factor, wich is usualy the "hook" anyway

for in the end, looks will fade and all that is left is that warm
calming happiness that we call love.

and isnt that what we all are truly seeking in the first place?

Answer 6

i understand what you mean. Assuming that you're highschool or junior high, guys at that age are a bit immature, and only care about looks. Dont let it bother you, and in time, you'll find a guy that won't care a thing about what you look like =)

Answer 7

Well, at that age, yea guys do tend to only focus on looks. But if you want to show some guys how sweet you really are, then start at a friend level. Something may develop.

Answer 8

This are facts my dear!
Guys goes for pretty gals and Gals also goes for nice looking guys...RIGHT?
If you want to be spotted! change your looks.Slim down that the first thing to do! Next Put on some make up, but not to turn yourself into a Xmas tree?

Answer 9

Looks do Matter.
Its Not Fair.
but thats just the way it is.

Answer 10

cuz theyre just guys. they probably did notice you but dont want to be teased in front of their freinds