Ive done it before and really didnt think nothing of it(sex), but my gf and i have been going out for 2 years and plannig of doing it after her parents leave on friday. Ive never been this nervous, i think its because i love her so much and if i did i would protect my self to protect her from messing up her life. she told me that we should do it, and i agreed but its her first time at age 16. she is the most beutiful girl in the school and we love each other alot. Should we do it and let her lose her innocence.
2006-11-22 17:13:55 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well...my dear friend, I was very suprised to encounter your question.
Well, my answer will be this, my dear good friend.
Don't do it. Whatever will it takes...I advise you not to do it. Why? Well, if you truly loved her, then wait until the right moment (of course after marriage), then you can do it. If she mad at you for not doing it and accuse you for not showing you love to her...ask her what kind of love you two are having if it is only based on sex??? Normally, love based on sex always end up with nothing at all. In other words, both of you gain nothing but only a temporary pleasure. For the rest of your life, either or both of you will feel guilty to yourself, your partner, your family and even worst...to you future wife (whom you may yet to meet in the future).
Therefore, for the sake of her innocency and of course YOUR INNOCENCY as well as PRIDE, my strict and bold advise to you will be NO. Don't do it. Ignore other people insults such as coward, virgin or so on merely because you 'failed' to take the good 'opportunity'.
Like I always say to the others, think first and ponder about it before going through it and then regretting it for the rest of your life. ( I guarantee this one to you.)
And again, such is only a temporary pleasure (believe me on this). Once you done with it, you may feel great (no one can deny this) YET...in one moment, you may feel regret about it. Even worst, you may regret about it for the rest of your life (I emphasize on this one before.)
Thus, my friend, you decide properly. The decision is upon yourself and it is for the benefit of many parties (you, your family, your loved one, and so on.).
One more thing before I end this advice of mine that I want you to think about...want is the use of having the dignity among men and women for being so 'brave' enough to have pre-intercourse if in the end its' purpose is only for pleasure and 'not-so-genuine-love'? Is it dignity for having sex for fun is more important than saving yourself from committing a sin? You know...the gate to heaven is too narrow. Even the slightest sin could cause one soul to be 'kicked' out from entering God's 'pub' (heaven/kingdom, of course).
My friend...it is for you to decide whether to do it or not to do it.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 17:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Triplestars 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think how nervous you'll be if something goes wrong, what if she gets pregnant? what if she hates it and blames you? No doubt you're about the same age or you wouldn't be here asking for advise. Better to leave it and let nature take it's course as you grow closer together in friendship, as that really is more important in the long run than a quickie while her parents aren't there.
2006-11-23 01:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you have been together for 2 years and love each other then I would not complicate it by having sex at the age of 16.
2006-11-23 01:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by rufi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
personally id say no. Cuz i remember when i was 16 and in love.and i thougth i was ready and i told everyone im never gonna regret this, this is what i want, and now i regret it. i wish i had waited till i ws more ready and i only hope you guys do too. good luck and i hoope you make the right choice<3
god bless.
2006-11-23 01:18:35 · answer #4 · answered by FairChild 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, I'm just around the same age as the girl so this should be a great answer. you're nervous right? you're probably not ready for it. plus, she's pretty darn young. and you love her so much, why can't you wait. it'll ruin the relationship....
2006-11-23 01:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by yennay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah... I'm gonna go with a NO on this one. No need to rush it. She probably won't get much fulfillment out of it anyway. She can wait. There's other ways of showing your love for each other.
2006-11-23 01:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by Chiky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u love her enough to be responsible for the consequences that MAY follow..im not saying they will but if You love eachother a lot what the heck go on....do it. i think there is nothing more beautiful than losing it to the guy/girl you love.
2006-11-23 01:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by pretty_latin_baby 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just use a condom and be prepared, this is a very big step for her.... be consoling afterwardss cause we girls get very sentimental after intercourse
2006-11-23 01:17:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
na, i dont think you should do it, since shes only 16. but if you REALLY wanna, then just use a lot of protection. i guess.
2006-11-23 01:16:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should just let it flow and if it happens let it happen. Make sure it is really something she want to do.
2006-11-23 01:19:08 · answer #10 · answered by Danyele P 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋