Is it Child Abuse?

Question

We recently had a class on child abuse and the teacher said that if you are hit and it leaves a scratch or bruise in this sate(CA) it's child abuse.My Biological dad hit me with a belt and it left both a scratch and bruise.I told my mom about it who told my dad and he got mad at me while my mom just laughed.He says it's far from child abuse but I say that he dosen't know what child abuse is because things have changed since he was little.I still have the marks and he hit me around two or three weeks ago.Maybe a month.Should I call The lady that taught us about it?

We recently had a class on child abuse and the teacher said that if you are hit and it leaves a scratch or bruise in this sate(CA) it's child abuse.My Biological dad hit me with a belt and it left both a scratch and bruise.I told my mom about it who told my dad and he got mad at me while my mom just laughed.He says it's far from child abuse but I say that he dosen't know what child abuse is because things have changed since he was little.I still have the marks and he hit me around two or three weeks ago.Maybe a month.Should I call The lady that taught us about it?
Again, IN THIS STATE IT IS CHILD ABUSE IF YOU LEAVE A MARK AND HE DID.I can't talk to him because i've tried and he got mad.He used to be a drug addict but not anymore and I have been getting answers to think about it but it's still child abuse from what I was taught.Maybe I should wait?

I was cleaning my room but my littel sister kept dirtying it up and my twin didn't help much.So thats why he hit me.

I grew up without my dad.Well He came and left came and left my enitre life and he left longer than he stayed.It's hard to miss him alot.

Answer 1

No

Answer 2

there's a line between discipline and child abuse
discpline is where u correct your kids u give them fare warning before u punish them beat there but whatever
but child abuse is like hand cuffing kids to the table making them starve while the parents feed there face
i hope u know what i mean because life isnt a joke and if your dad is really a good guy deep inside and u call that lady because u dont want him to hit u no more because u were being a spoiled brat there will be a day when u really miss him and your going to have kids of your own maybe even way worse then u are now and pulling the same stuff on u
they will steal your money etc and when u go after them they call the cops on you
if your dad is a total prick asshole beats u because he found a single piece of dust on the white glove then call but just dont call because u want to have your way life is a big learning lesson if u dont learn now u learn things u should be learning now but in a very harder way

Answer 3

Is this the only time it has happened? You really need to evaluate this situaton before you bring in someone from outside your family....By all means, if you are REALLY being abused, but if you are questioning the abuse, maybe it is not abuse so much as a punishment situation. Things have changed over the generations how people view these things. But if you do call someone, you may be removed from your home, limited to no contact with your dad or maybe both your parents, they will be investigated and maybe even arrested.

Answer 4

Okay, first of all, cg is a freak, don't listen to anything he says. Second of all, this sounds like the kind of thing that happens on a regular basis, so you should definitely speak with someone about it. I was spanked with a belt a couple times when I was little, and I must say I deserved it, but my dad never hit so hard that it left a scratch or bruise. The belt was more of a pyschological thing than a physical one. Also, I recommend speaking with a trusted family member whom you believe will take you seriously and listen to your concerns with an open mind and willingness to help you. And, sweetie, I'm sorry, but your Mom doesn't sound like a good person to speak to about this AT ALL!!! You should never have to worry about being hit by someone just because you displeased them. I am of the VERY FIRM belief that hitting someone to teach them a lesson about something simply defeats the purpose of trying to teach them in the first place. However, if you are just thinking of crying "abuse" because you're feelings or ego are hurt more than your body, then reevaluate the situation and tell your dad that him hitting you is like his boss hitting him when he screws up on the job. It doesn't accomplish much but to hurt the person you love. Then, you need to try and work out some other form of discipline with him, like grounding from TV/Video games/sleepovers/going out/etc. or extra housework or something, because everyone needs to be punished for their wrongdoings. Try to get that family member who you speak with to help you talk to your dad. You're in my prayers and if you need to talk me about it further or get more advice or a different take on it, just email me at [e-mail] and I'd be MORE than happy to help you in any way I can. Be brave!!! :-)

Answer 5

You know what, my dad used a belt on me when I was a kid and yes he left bruises, but I got a wack when I did something that I knew was wrong. He was never cruel about it, I turned out fine, in fact I love my dad very much and we are very close.
I think people have taken the child abuse thing way to far. Yes people are abused, but they move the line forward everyday, by the time you are a parent they will throw you in jail because you made your child cry.

Answer 6

Now I'm going to tell you something here. If you seriously feel as if your dad is out of control and was beating you like a crazy person...yes, call the lady. If you are just upset because you got in trouble and you think he deserves a little "punishment" himself, you better think about this one long and hard. If you do this, the state will come in and possibly take you out of the home and put your dad in jail/prison. If you are in a home that your dad just starts hitting you for no reason other than the fact that you exist, call for help, but I have a feeling that since you are questioning it, I don't think your home life is as bad as you are making it out to be.

Answer 7

It is up to you whether it is child abuse... was the reason really good ...how long did the marks last.... do you think you deserved a punishment but if you do call the lady there is no going back i am not trying to scare you but you can't call then say you were just upset you might be separated from ur siblings and parents

Answer 8

you should think about the reason why this happened. You did not say what or if you did something wrong. kids have to learn that there are consequenses for their actions, this is the whole reason for spanking or discipline. if he just hit you to hit you or was in a mood then it is abuse. if you did something wrong and you know it, then you are just looking for your dad to get in trouble and you are looking for revenge. revenge is not a reason to do anything.

think about when you were small and got smacked for doing a dangerous thing like running into the road or touching a hot stove, etc. if no one smacked you for these things, you could have been dead by now.

parents discipline for good reasons, but when it is abuse--yes, you report it. but you need to make sure you are correct on the facts and on the reasoning for the action.

Answer 9

Any way you look at it,to be hit with a belt is child abuse. There are other methods of discipline without getting physical. Definately talk to some one, the lady who taught the class, your guidance couselor, your clery or anyone who will listen.

Answer 10

If your dad hit you with a belt for discipline, then in my opinion, it is considered as child abuse already whether you have a bruise or not.

My father accidentally elbowed me on the arm when I was little. Yeah I got a nasty *** bruise from it, but I wouldn't consider it to be child abuse because he didn't mean to hurt me.

Answer 11

Write you feelings in a letter to him. Tell him you love him but you no longer feel safe, and you feel like he is not only abusing you, but he is abusing the whole family , and himself. If you write it he can look at it over and over and think more about it . Go to a public place to discuss the matter.Have an item with you, ie.. a ball if your in the park or a napkin or something if your in a restaurant. The one holding the item is the one to talk. then you pass the item to the other person to speak. Try to open a new line of communication with your dad. Good luck