How do you move on from an old relationship that was toxic?

Question

I was in a 6 year long relationship with someone that was not trust-worthy,and was also mentally & physically abusive.It's been a year since I've talked to this person,I just don't ever want to look back again!!!!

Answer 1

Good for you for making the very difficult decision to leave. I don't know if you have gone to counseling. That can be a good step in moving on. Some shelters for abused women have free counseling programs even for women who have not lived there. Also there are often non-profit counseling centres. If you are in North America call 211 or your local community information center for more details.

I had a bad five year relationship that began to be physically abusive by the end. In my situation, I found that talking to an experienced counselor helped. I also got involved in activities that I had let slide when I was with my ex. I spent a lot of time reconnecting with old friends. It's a good time to explore new hobbies too. If you can't think of one, think of what you most loved doing as a child (painting, singing, writing...) and maybe take something like that up again. This is your time to find out more about you. I wish you all the best!

Answer 2

Try to learn from the relationship...acknowledging the problems and what happened is the best thing for you right now. Do you have a best friend that you really trust or know really well? It really helps to sort things out with a best friend. She can give you her advice and also support you the whole time you reflect on the relationship. Bringing yourself face to face with the problem and allowing yourself to open up to your best friend/friends is part of the process of moving on...it definitely is not an easy process or a short process, but on the way you get to meet new people and become closer and share a new bond with friends :)

Answer 3

Well Limbs, I think you answered yoru questions. Don't look back. You are precious to God and he doesnt't want anyone to harm or disrespect his treasure (you). Hopefully you believe in Christ and are able to pray and God to heal you from the emotional/mental issues you recieved during this relationship and he will do it, I promise he will. I have not been in the type of relationship you were in, but I've gone through some things in my life where since it did not kill me (physcially) it could have EASILY put me in the mental institution. But the Lord healed me and I can't tell you how long it took, I just know after all my prayer one day those issues seemed a million miles away and I felt a zillion times better. Hope this helps, God Bless.

Answer 4

Been there, done that. You just have to let it go and put it in the past. Consider it as a learning experience and look to the future. There are a lot of good, decent people out there. I was with a mean drunk who would give me black eyes, cheat on me and say horrible things to me. Now I'm with a great guy who's treated me wonderfully for over three years. But when I look back I just smile and thank my lucky stars that jerk is out of my life.

Answer 5

Then don't!!! Move on, sure it will be hard in the beginning, but if you think about it you didn't actually gain anything from this relationship. So... take a deep breath and start your new life... Today!!