my question is do you think it is alright for older siblings to discipline younger ones. i am 15 years older than my sister and i have been babysitting her since she was born. she is 7 now i have always disciplined her whether it was a swat on the butt or a time out (whatever was apporpriate at the time) some people say it isnt right because parents should do it but for some reason she responds to me more so than my mother she always has since she was a baby. what do you think just a curiousity question.
2006-11-22 16:59:00 · 30 answers · asked by iAmJustMe 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
When you are left in charge of your sister, it is ok for you to disipline her. If your parents are home, it is then their job. They seem to be putting too much responsibility on the hands of a 15 year old. While babysitting take charge it's cool...let them deal with her and show her that they are the authoritative ones at home.
2006-11-22 17:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Jamie J 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 5, and my 2 older children were 7, and 9 when the first of the younger 3 were born, and we allowed them to discipline our younger children when the 2 older ones were older, and we had no problem with it as long as it was within means. Our 11 yr old disciplines our 8, and 9 yr old and they listen to her. We the parents of course also do the majority of the discipline. We stay consistent with it as well. I feel it is OK, as long as the parent also agrees with it. It is always the parents decision. You sound like you will be a consistent mother when your time comes.
2006-11-22 17:14:01 · answer #2 · answered by Clara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that your mother must not have been active in your sisters discipline from the beginning if she responds better to you than your mother. She's not your child and your sounding and acting like her mother. She's your sister, whats going to happen when you have your own children? Would you allow or expect your older child to discipline the younger, or would that be your responsibility?
2006-11-22 17:16:42 · answer #3 · answered by NAT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your discipline is in line with your parents and not an excuse to bully there is no problem.
I was the youngest of 8 and my older brothers delt with me when I was a rat bag, and now as a single parent my eldest daughter (now 17) helps with the younger boys (15 & 12)
I am sure you are a huge help to your mum
2006-11-26 14:03:52 · answer #4 · answered by juztnutz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally do not agree with it. I'm not saying you're the one in the wrong here - I just think that your parents should have made a rule - a long time ago - that you could "discipline" her, but not physically. I don't think there is any problem with siblings redirecting a child or even putting one in time out, as long as it is warranted, but physical disciple (ie spanking, etc.) is for the parents , not the siblings.
2006-11-23 16:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by magen n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children shouldn't discipline children! A seven yr. old does not deserve spanking as a punishment. Real parents discipline their kids with time outs, groundings, punishments, taking things away....Not spanking especially when they understand everything. You are not the mother here and I feel bad that you have this responsibility. You are a kid yourself. Keep your hands off your sister. It is your mother's job. And as a babysitter I would NEVER allow you to discipline my children that way, why would anyone. Are the people on this board for real?!!!
2006-11-22 20:40:45 · answer #6 · answered by noitall 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the role of the parent in your household , I don't see anything wrong with discipline your sister. Older siblings should set a good example and look after their younger siblings.
2006-11-22 17:02:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes parents aren't always around to discipline the child or they don't know since the child is almost always afraid to tell the parents (some can be too judgemental), so they tell their oldest sibling. My younger brother used to come to me before going to my parents about things, or I would find out about it more than my parents and I would correct him right then and there.
2006-11-22 22:04:21 · answer #8 · answered by 1/6,833,020,409 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too, am 15 years older than my brother, and i discipline him all the time when he is bad, if i am watching him. He might need a time out, or a light tap on the hand. He has gotten one or two smaks on the bottom in the past - only when appropriate, only when necessary.
It's perfectly fine, especially when you watch and help take care of that sibling, you are RESPONSIBLE (pardon the caps, it is compensation for lack of italics) for disciplining the child when it is called for.
2006-11-22 17:03:19 · answer #9 · answered by ChrisB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has always responds more to you than her mother there is a definate problem here. Your mother needs to take a more active role in raising this child or in her teenage years when you are off doing your own thing life will be out of control and she will not be able to have a handle on the situation.
2006-11-22 19:32:08 · answer #10 · answered by kelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋