My husband and daughter clash?

Question

My daughter is 17yrs & my husband & her clash. I tend to interfere as I don't think he handles the situation, he always goes over the top. I don't want her to move out of home, so I feel my choices are limited. Any advice? He won't go to counceling.

Answer 1

It is fault of father, he should first love her and create true affections then start giving advices. A father should always love his children, not be critical all the times, this girl is growing up, her mental out look is different and at this age she thinks she is right, so the father should understand her mental status due this perticular age. Only way out is love her, ignore her mistakes, dont criticise rather encourage, do this for a month and then she will follow him. The key thing is I repeat Love and dont criticise.

Answer 2

A couple of questions for you....
Is your husband you daughters biological father? If not, there may be a jealousy issue.
If so, does your husband and daughter have similar personalities?

My husband and daughter are so much alike, it drives me nuts sometimes. My daughter is 21 and in college now, and they get along great. (Daddys girl again)
When she was going through her rebellious years, I thought I would pull my hair out. She and I got along great, but her dad had a temper and so did she.
Talk to your husband, quietly, when she is not around. Tell him your fear of her moving out. Then talk to her. Try to find out exactly how they each feel. Ask them why they get so irritated with each other. I am sure they will each give you a reason. Compare their answers, and see if you can resolve the problems.
I wish you the best of luck, I know how frustrating it can be.

Answer 3

I would speak to them seperately. He is just being a Dad. And your daughter might not understand now, but she will later. You are just being you and being motherly! Maybe by talking with her yourself you can explain that her Dad is just set in his ways and he interferes because he loves her and doesn't want her to get hurt. Is your daughter actually making enough money to move out? If she is, she might go, but it's hard out there, so she will probably end up right back with yas! So, if she should leave don't make it where she can't come back.

Answer 4

You did not mention if your husband is your daughters Father!

I know what your going thru though. TOUGH situation.

Only my son is now 20, with a son of his own. And they both moved in with us last June.

My husband always went over the top with our son, and still does at times. I have learned to let them work it out on their own. I refuse to play referee.

Good luck to you!

Answer 5

is he your daughters real father? if not...he shouldn't be able to tell her what to do.. she didn't ask for a new father. If anything you should tell him that you will be her disiplinary. You need to take the initiative on this one. Talk to your daughter. ask her how she feels and what she doesn't like. talk to your husband...find out what he feels and what he doesnt like. if he won't go to counseling you need to mediate. If it doesn't get any better you can tell both of them that you hate how they both clash and that it really hurts you. Honesty is the best solution here.

Answer 6

dads and daughters clash...... that is just the way of things.... unless he is abusive ??? that changes things.... if not, you have to remember what it was like at that age... part woman, part daddys' little girl..... she is inbetween worlds right now, and I am sure dad is too... He may not know how to handle her growing up..... I suggest you sit them both down, put your foot down and discuss this with them both.... explain to dad, she is growing up, and to her dad is growing too, and learing how to let go is tuff....... God bless