My fiance has a 7 month old son whom I'm crazy about (They did not know she was pregnant with they seperated). He and his ex-wife and I finally get along and I get to see him usually once a week and my fiance sees him a few times a week. His ex and i talk over myspace a few times a week and we're always exchanging pictures we've taken of baby and daddy together so the whole relationship is good. There won't be any family or friends at our wedding, since we're getting married 300 miles from home and nobody can travel that far. Should I include a children's vow? I just recently heard about them and was wanting some good suggestions on wording...our regualar vows and ring vows we've already picked out and the wording is more young and contemporary, not traditional. Any ideas?
2006-11-22 16:45:51 · 10 answers · asked by craigsgirly47 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I think that is great. :) Maybe you could print what you say out on nice paper and frame it in his room as well. Or do a sand ceremony with a coloured sand for your stepson and make a candle out of it.
"You are young as I speak, but my love for you has been since beginning. What you will not remember, I will never forget as I speak these vows with my heart. I promise as I watch you grow to love you, to guide you while letting you set your own path in life. I promise to listen as a friend, a guardian and a parent in your life. I will be here for you as we laugh, cry and experience life together. Today as a family we say our vows of love and together as we leave this place we begin an anticipated journey, together. I promise to you I will always remember this vow"
I dunno...just thought of that one for wording. :) Your step son is gaining a wonderful Mom. Remember; love and "step" are both four letter words....and he has both from you.
Congrats and have a wonderful wedding and life.
2006-11-22 18:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cariad 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I usually see this done for older children. That is not to say you cant do it for younger children. Just remember the vows are really for the people saying them and who they are being said to. With this in mind I dont want you to think I am against the idea, simply that the child you are making the vow to will not be able to understand. BUT!!! Seeing your wedding video later will really set the tone for a much easier teenage years.
Will the child be at the wedding? If not a childs vow will be a bit out of place, saying something in your vows will be nice however.
2006-11-23 01:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by Texas Tiger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my girlfriends just did this about a year ago. Granted her children were older (9 and 11), but during the ceremony, she gave his children a small pin and vowed to always be there for them, promised to love and cherish them as if they were her own and pledged her undying devotion to make sure they have everything they need as a family unit throughout life. It was a tear jerker.
I know the baby is young, and his adjustment towards you is going to make this so much easier, especially the friendship you've developed with his mother. You'll figure it out...just speak from the heart and you can't go wrong.
2006-11-23 00:51:48 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is best - it's your wedding day !
(Since you have already established yourself as a caring step parent , I don't see why you need a vow for step son since you've accepted him with open arms - Just keep doing that always and he'll appreciate having a wonderful step-mom!)
2006-11-23 00:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a children's vow is a beautiful idea. Just speak freely about this child whom you love so much. He'll remember it as the day he gained an extra mom. :)
2006-11-23 00:48:18 · answer #5 · answered by hannahbash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats great idea although i think you should speak freely as everyone eles has pointed out such as you will do with the new hubby but maybe beacause he is so young you should get him a baby pin or braclet as you love for him i do think that you should approch his mother and explain that you do love and want him in your life as much as you want your new hubby and i am sure she will not mind that you r doing this for her son
2006-11-23 01:58:52 · answer #6 · answered by katie r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a new one on me Ihave never heard of childrens vow...
2006-11-23 00:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by conundrum_dragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to the baby's mom and your fiance for starters, make sure they are alright with it. If they are, then go for it,it sounds like a really nice idea.
2006-11-23 00:48:39 · answer #8 · answered by Zorlinda 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let your fiance - just let her to see your point and make the decision together. God help you - have what you make for it.
Bye
2006-11-23 00:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-11-23 00:46:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋