I recently met a wonderful, funny guy and we have an insane attraction and chemistry and we connect on all levels. He is so fun to be around and we have a great time together...and everything could go absolutely wonderful but of course something has to go wrong! He is moving far, far away..to New York to be exact, and I live in Wisconsin. I'm ooberly sad and I've only known him a short while but he is absolutely amazing..can anyone say anything to help me get over him? THANKS!
2006-11-22 16:41:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We are both only 17. :(
2006-11-22 16:45:55 · update #1
It just sucks because we both really like each other and things could be so perfect if only we weren't living miles apart. It's like "what could have been.." you know?? I'm terribly sad over this! :(
2006-11-22 16:47:05 · update #2
Oh man that is such a difficult situation! The only thing that's ever really helped me get over people is to think about my whole life before I met that person... about how that person wasn't even a glint in my eye back then, and about how I was happy, and I can be again. I just try to hold onto my dreams that I've had since I was a child, and I work on fulfilling them, and making myself more of the person that I want to be. I guess basically I try to just think about how little of a fraction of time that person took up in my life, and how huge a fraction of time others took up (like my parents and grandparents) and I try to hold onto what really matters and stay grounded. And then I also think about how we are all connected regardless of time and space, and that there is a universal breath to life and that relationships don't really end just because someone moves away. Stay positive and hopeful that you can still think of him as someone dear to you, whether you remain as friends, or something more, or whether you simply continue to think of him and cherish him in your mind and soul. My thoughts are with you.
2006-11-22 16:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess you've said everything already. You don't want to give it a chance then, you want help getting over him...
I can't blame you, I guess, long distance relationships suck, but sometime, when the person is really right, they do work. My brother dated his girlfriend for a little less than a year, then we moved from Europe to U.S. He went on his summer break and married her. He would see her only during summer 'cause he was going to school. It took her 5 years to get her papers to come here, by then they had a 4-year old together. They made it. But I do understand that they are one in a million.
So if you want to get over him, start going out as much as you can. Go out with your girlfriends, try to meet new people, go to different social events, like concerts, expos. You'll remember why it was so great to be single and meet all these cool new people and you'll get over him. Just don't sit at home and wonder what could have been, then it'll take you much longer.
Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
2006-11-23 00:48:01 · answer #2 · answered by yishor 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you should have to get over him. It isn't necessarily a bad thing to linger as long as you don't obsess. Release your feelings in a way to help you slowly get over until you find the guy you are supposed to be with. I suggest picking up a good book. I recommend Franny and Zooey by J.D. Salinger. It'll change your life.
2006-11-23 00:44:42 · answer #3 · answered by hannahbash 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't you stay in touch? At least be friends? Time will help you get over him. You don't have any choice in the matter. You won't even see him! That's not as bad as constantly running into a guy you're trying to get over.
2006-11-23 00:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by mich 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend moved to Tennessee, we are still going out and still very much in love.
2006-11-23 00:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by Ariella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was in love with you, hed either stay to be with you or ask you to marry him and go with him, he hasnt asked and hes not staying so therefore he doesnt love you. its just a crush
2006-11-23 00:44:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you haven't posted your age ..... is moving with him an option? .... why would you want to get over him ... cherish the memories of the time you did have together :)
2006-11-23 00:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋