I just recently broke up with my girlfriend of 3 months who uses alcohol,inhalents,marijuana.She is also possibly pregnant. I keep telling myself leaving was in the best interest of myself and my friends agree,but something just keeps telling me to go back...im not sure how to make it stop or why I feel like this.
2006-11-22 16:36:04 · 13 answers · asked by John L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's guilt. Those of us who are or have been in relationships with self-destructive people feel a responsibility to them that we shouldn't. We think many times that we are their only link to sanity, when really it's just harming us in the process. It was probably very hard to do what you did, but be glad for yourself that you recognized the warning signs. And if you're still very worried about her own sanity and health, and the health of the baby she might be carrying, then try to get her some help. But recognize that it's her with the problem, not you for leaving her. And talk to someone else who may have gone through similar circumstances, they can help keep you sane.
2006-11-22 16:41:11 · answer #1 · answered by Someone who cares 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have unfinished business. And you can't deny that. Honor what you feel. I tell you from experience. I know is a very ugly situation.Buck up because I know you have to do this. Also understand that you will need help with her. And there are so many who want to help you help her. Will require professional help. And don't worry if you don't have money. It will take care of itself. And she is willing to pay the price. I hope the best for both of you. Know that whatever happens in her life that you gave it your all. That you were a friend that literally walked through hell and back. The thing is God conquers all. Always know that. I wish I could save you from your pain and hers. All I can do is pray for you both. And I will.
2006-11-23 00:47:30 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guess is that you really care for her and feeling like you do is normal. You cannot help her if she does not want to be helped. You have done the right thing and the feeling will eventually go away.
HOWEVER, you say she might be pregnant. If it is yours, YOU are responsible for that child and his/her care for the next 18 years or you are a jerk. Think it over.
2006-11-23 00:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by howdigethere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you, feel that way because you care about her,in 3 month you can care a lot about a person.if you want to give her another try ask her, to please stop using drugs espeacilly now that she think she is pregant.if something telling you to go back have a talk about drugs and how you dont want it to be apart of your life.good luck to you i know you will make the right choice.
2006-11-23 00:55:09 · answer #4 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you still love her and you're probably worried about what she is doing to herself and the baby. Drugs can destroy lives and I feel sorry for the unborn child. Maybe you can talk to someone in her family about getting help for her... Good luck.
2006-11-23 00:40:50 · answer #5 · answered by bellagirl1414 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this girl that she need help and you'll be there for her when/if she gets her **** together. You might love her, but you've got to take care of yourself, first and foremost. The pain will fade in time, trust me on this...
2006-11-23 00:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by bongfuel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you feel guilty for leaving her in the situation that she is in, however, you need to realize that you did not put her there. She put herself in that situation and you need to move on if your lifestyle is different.
2006-11-23 00:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's guilt. You know that it's not in your best interest to stay with her but you still do because you love her.
2006-11-23 00:44:28 · answer #8 · answered by sunflower 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your in the clear, and there's no bambino, don't look back. Keep running, as fast as you can.
2006-11-23 00:41:11 · answer #9 · answered by Jolly Green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might just love her unconditionally. don't listen to your friends. always keep your friends out of your relationship
2006-11-23 00:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋