how do u build up trust in a relationship?

Question

My girlfriend cheated on me a while back in our relationship and i forgave her. during our relationship we had a break and she had "relations" wit another person. Im trying not to be freaked out and ecuse her of anything she hasnt done..but i just feel like she is...

Answer 1

Trust is something I feel that is earned. Once someone cheats that is a very very hard thing to gain back. It takes a strong person to do that. I have given people who have cheated on me second chances. Those chances did not work out. If you feel you cannot trust her, you must move on. Why be with someone you are always wondering???? You can try counselling. She has to understand why you feel the way you do and she has to be willing to hear your feelings about those things. If you were both not together and she had a "relationship" with others and it bothers you, it means you still are not over what she did. It is bringing back those feelings. You should talk it over with her. Communication and honesty have to be in the relationship. Pray about it too. If something is in your gut telling you something, it is probably telling you something you need to listen to. I wish you the best in whatever your decision is. Hugs for you.

Answer 2

People who want to build trust in a relationship have to be transparent in their actions and deeds. It's really that simple.
You speak honestly to each other, and that doesn't mean use the truth as a weapon to hurt someone. (like bad breath or whatever)
You be where you say you'll be, when you say you'll be there.
If there is anything that would appear to be less than honest, tell the other person first.
Consider your actions, and how they will affect not only the other person, but your relationship with them.
Act respectfully, and honorably.
It's really that simple, and that hard.

Answer 3

You girl is having some issues. Low self esteem, confusing sex with love, etc.

She may never be true to you because she has these issues she needs to addtress. Counseling may help. Perhaps couples counseling eventually but she needs to do it by herself first.

Building trust can be done by never doing anything that can make trust stray. Going out with girls for example (or guys), staying at an opposite sexes house, etc.

Answer 4

She is the one that has to make the effort to get you to trust her. Once trust is broken it is very difficult to get back. If she is trying and you want to be with her you should relax and really try to trust her.

I have another point though if you were on a break, she wasn't cheating.

Answer 5

Once you lose trust, there isn't anything left! Once the trust is gone, everything is gone, because no matter what she does in the back of your mine you are always going to think she is cheating on you....or either its going to bring back memories of her cheating on you....example, she told she was going to see her female friend and really she was going to see her other man. so the next time she is really really going to see her friend you might think she is going to see her other man.....IT TAKE YEARS TO BUILD TRUST AND ONLY SECONDS TO DESTROY IT

Answer 6

I think you are wonderful for forgiving her. I do think though that your trust is gone and true forgiveness to me is letting it all go. Is she worth it to you to stay with her and wonder if it will happen again? Ask yourself if she is worth the pain of your memory?

Answer 7

amen buddy.. lying never gets you anywhere. trust... it earned. its not a right but a privaledge.
~Love Always
Bianca

Answer 8

if your not completely happy and having doubts, then maybe it's time to break up.

Answer 9

never lie