My boyfriend told me that he wants to wait till he's married to kiss a girl and like i told him that is like impossiable.... i need help on how to talk him about this.... thanks!
2006-11-22 15:58:37 · 15 answers · asked by Total_Pineapple_forever 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i respect him but i don't what to do we have been friend for like ever
2006-11-22 16:03:07 · update #1
You could end up with a devoted husband but also a dommineering one tell him shape up practice makes perfect and dont be a spoil sport .Askm him what is he afraid of is it his own ability to not stop or is he afraid that one kiss with you will turn into a ravishing time that maybe he is not adequit to handle. Gee I envy im
2006-11-22 16:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of us are on set on different moral standards. It's no one's fault; that's just the way that life is. If you delve deep inside your mind, you can probably pick out one or two things that relate to yourself that you don't want to compromise. Some people may think you're "weird" for not wanting to compromise whatever it is that you don't want to mess up. However, does it appear "weird" to you? Most likely not.
If that made no sense at all....
Your boyfriend has a separate (NOT higher; just separate) set of ethics. That's not good and that's not bad; it's just there. He's not breaking the law or professing blasphemy or anything like that by not wanting to kiss until he's married. In fact, try fast-forwarding to your prospective marriage. If you think about it, your husband (whoever it is) is laying the same lips on your mouth, that have touched the lips of many other women. And your lips that touch his, are the same lips that have touched those of other men as well. There should be a feeling of respect for anyone who can manage to withhold such interaction until matrimony. Not only is it morally expected of certain individuals; it's a matter of physical and sexual health. Don't forget that we live in a world where sexually transmitted diseases are becoming more and more pestilent. Call it "weird" if you want, but the reality is that it's just his personal moral standard. Questioning a person's decision to kiss another person is one thing. Questioning that person's ethical code is another. Hope you found this helpful.
2006-11-23 00:13:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
why is that impossible? just respect his wishes, there arentalot of good,old fashioned dudes left, dont try to push him into anythiing..besides, guys that wait till there married usually marry for the long haul, divorce isnt something youll have to worry about... so, basicly thats a way good thing!! respect his wishes, youd want him to respect yours, right?
2006-11-23 00:14:32 · answer #3 · answered by s p 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol I think you are so true, it would be impossiable to not kiss any one intill marrage. But you know maybe if you get him in to the mood. and kiss him. But man he must be kidding!
2006-11-23 00:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good long lasting relationship is built on trust and respect. You can get over the physical by focusing on the intellectual and you future.
2006-11-23 00:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by tnysallee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's not impossible, there are people who do that. There are people who don't even touch the girl until their married already. You have to respect what he wants to do, and if you can't, then don't go out with him.
2006-11-23 00:00:32 · answer #6 · answered by Ariella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. Sure, most people kiss before they are married, but he is probably just being careful. Kissing could lead to sex, and you should not have sex before marage.
Have a nice day :-)
2006-11-23 00:02:57 · answer #7 · answered by drewfranklin4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're wrong it's not impossible to never kiss until one is married. Maybe it's impossible for YOU to wait until marriage.
2006-11-22 23:59:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sounds like he's beating around the bush and something else is going on. if he doesn't want to kiss you, dont make him....its just that respect thing, just like you wouldn't want to be pushed into doing something you dont want to do.
2006-11-23 00:01:17 · answer #9 · answered by goldie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it must have to do with his religion because no guy in his right mind would wait to...kiss..before marriage. i can understand no sex..but no kissing...thats just weird.
2006-11-23 00:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by peterthegreekboy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋