Ok, so ive been wiith this guy for 2 years now. we are soul mates. were alike in almost everyway, and for the most part, very much in love. Now heres the problem:
for the past 2 months, we have been together every single day. weve hung out everyday. Drinking beer, talking, enjoying nice views, restuarants, ETC..... ;)
Now, for the past 3 days we decided not to hang out and that was fine, and today he says "he has some stuff to do"
then he says "im goin out with some friends"
when i ask who, he wont tell me, he says i wouldnt know them.
i know all his friends.
when i asked if i call u, will u pick up:
he says no, i might be drunk or somethin, u never know
so i say well where u going?
he says "I dont know"
dude, what is this whole "i dont know, u dont know thing about?
how do i get him to tell me stuff without playing a 20 questions game .. weve been hangin out for long enough, everyday, why suddenly is he hiding things?
someone please help!!!!
2006-11-22 15:57:24 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
in response to s p: im 21, hes 22. yes were bf gf. for 2 years now. weve even talked about marriage in the next few years...
2006-11-22 16:25:30 · update #1
well theres a wave of different reasons. one of which is that he want some space and have time on his own. guys do need time to be guys.
another is that he could be cheating but thats very doutful from the way u put it. so i think thies are the biggest ones at thies point of time.
2006-11-22 16:01:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guarantee you that he has found another gf and he's now hanging out with her most of the days and time. You shd dump him before he hurts you again and again. You're now living under his lies and why shd you let him lie to lie over and over again? He's finding excuses to leave you, can't you see that?
Anyway, I've been through EXACTLY the same stage like yours. I knew my ex-bf for 4 yrs and before he finally admitted he has a new girl, he finds all sort of ridiculous & lame excuses to avoid calling me & going out with me. I was crying everyday why didn't he call me yet? When will he come & find me and go out together. What's he doing now? All these silly questions are always on my mind. And I told myself to calm down, maybe he's abit busy recently so he has got no time for me. But 1 day, I was out with my gal friends & suddenly my friend pointed, I turned & saw him holding another gal's hand and I finally realised I've been cheated all the while.
Normally, when a guy wants to break off with his gf, he doesn't wish to say it out personally, firstly he's scared of the girl's weeping and he'll get softened and give in to her. 2ndly, he has no guts to tell her that he wants a break up. Well, think about it yourself, you know him better but like I've said, a guy can changed due to different situations.
I just hope you can sort things out carefully and leave him if he still persists on not meeting you. I'm quite sure he has already lose interest in you. Trust me, learn to let go of this painful relationship. I'm SURE there are much more better guys out there waiting to woo you. Give them a chance!!!
2006-11-22 16:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-29 09:36:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's obviouly doing something that he doesn't want you to know about. I would give him some space for right now and not act interested and then when he decides he wants to talk, you can tell him exactly how you felt about it. If he doesn't have the heart to explain then you need to tell him that this relationship isn't working for you anymore and watch him squirm if he cares. If he gets defensive he might be interested in someone else.
2006-11-22 16:05:41 · answer #4 · answered by danny_austin4 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This seems like a case of needing his space. If you push the issue it may lead to a fight. If he has givin you a reason to not trust him in the past then I would worry but remember it is the season to be shopping of those special people in our lives. Maybe he just doesn't want to tell you that. Give him his space and go hang out with some of your friends that you haven't seen lately.
2006-11-22 16:03:18 · answer #5 · answered by MereBear 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl Iam going through the same thing.I think mine is cheating to be honest. But every guy is different just alittle bit. My advice is to go follow him with out him knowing if hes not cheating then he just might need some of his time alone.Maybe he feels to crowded.
Back up alittle cause you never know he might be feed up with it.
2006-11-22 16:03:49 · answer #6 · answered by hclover21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like he hiding something or just wants time with the guys. Sometimes breathing under someone neck all the time can just bug them and frustrate them to the point where they just need some time away from the problem...
2006-11-22 16:03:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like soul mates to me, maybe do something to spice things up. Maybe he's secretly going to AA meetings.
2006-11-22 16:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
couple things, first stop thinking 'soulmates', second, give him some space if he needs it..third, ask him if everythings ok, let me ask first, are you actually bfnd gf? how old are you guys? sometimes guys just need some space..if its too long space, then hes probably got another love interest
2006-11-22 16:18:58 · answer #9 · answered by s p 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-01-26 19:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋