This kid is violent, my son has come home with 2 black eyes, drinks and smokes, and who knows what else. He even has a parole officer. I have seen a huge change in my son, and I have even moved him out of town to keep him away from this "friend" but this boy continues to contact my son via the internet and phone.
2006-11-22 15:45:06 · 11 answers · asked by whissp_4u 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tell your son in no uncertain terms he is not to have contact with this guy. Dont let him use the pc or phone until he abides by your rules. But you also need to find out why your son is attracted to this violent lifestyle too. Then help him deal with it.
2006-11-22 16:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to have some REAL TALK with your son; about life, choices, God, mistakes, his future, and so called friends. Let's be real, when you were a teen, feeling like your parents were trying to be over protective or choose your friends, only made you want to do the opposite of what they said MORE! So, playing up this friends bad persona is not going to help your case. Stay focused on him (your son), how much you love him and want the best for him, and if need be, divulge some mistakes you made as a teen. Children can relate better to personal experiences than they can being talked at when they are teens; it's the infamous years where you THINK you know more than what you really do and we ALL have been there! Again, focus on what matters most to you here; your son! And just stress how his choices now will effect him down the road. Ultimately, let him know YOU love him, no matter what! Making yourself the warden or the enemy in this situation is not going to benefit you at all; and I'm not saying as a parent it's your job to be his "buddy", but at the point that this person has already made this type of negative impression on your son, you have to gain some leverage here, before you just GO OFF, about what he can and cant do and how BAD this friend is.
2016-05-22 20:35:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trying to control your children's friends or pick their friends NEVER works. It only makes the "bad" kids more interesting to your kids. Who pays the internet bill? I suggest taking the computer OUT of your son's room to begin with, he doesn't need a computer in his room anyway at 16. Pay more attention to what he DOES on the computer. Have your phone number changed and make it an unlisted number, if your son has a cell phone and you pay for it get a "limited" plan and program it for only certain calls, or better yet, TAKE THE PHONE AWAY period.
2006-11-22 16:15:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sometimes helps if you present the unwelcome "friend" with some of his "dirt". Take a look into his backround here: www.ThePublicRecords.com, or here: www.Intelius.com
If that doesn't help then obtain some help from a lawyer, FAST, before your son is in need of a parole officer as well.
2006-11-22 16:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by HSB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfotunatly not the more you push he the closer to this friend he will get. Talk to your local police department. Sometimes they have prgrams where your son can visit cell mates and talk with them this could scare him onto the right path. Right now he thinks this kid is "cool" but he will wake up soon hopefully and realize when he is sitting in jail this "frined" will not be there. Where is the "friends" parents ? Have you spoken with them ? They may be on the same page you are and could help you out. Good luck
2006-11-22 15:49:24 · answer #5 · answered by brookesingsalways 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We as parents want the best for our children; no matter what don’t give up. Do not expect your child to stop hanging out with these types of people; pressing charges may cause just that. Don’t be afraid; your child will understand all your fuss when his time comes.
2006-11-22 15:57:37 · answer #6 · answered by eyerissblack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent. Lock his 16 yo butt in the closet if you have to. You make the rules, Tell your son you don't want him around this " Friend". Then tell his looser "Friend" to get lost, go play in traffic, long walk off a short peer..... What ever it takes..
2006-11-22 15:50:24 · answer #7 · answered by goin_truck_racin06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
consult a legal expert
laws differ from country to country
better try to change your son's attitude slowly but firmly
2006-11-22 15:49:25 · answer #8 · answered by R Purushotham Rao 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cut off the phone n internet n move far away.
2006-11-22 16:00:39 · answer #9 · answered by nikki_girlsixx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
complane to his mother or his relatives they will set him right
2006-11-22 17:43:57 · answer #10 · answered by RANJANA B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋