I've grown really close to this girl over the last few months and we get on really well, and she's the first thing I think of before I go to sleep and wake, and she's on my mind a lot through out the day. I have this overwhelming feeling of caring about her it's like the way she feels about herself and her happiness are so important to me, because if I know she's ok I'm ok, if she's not I am not. Recently she's been going through a tough time and it feels like being there for her through it all isn't enough I just want to go throught it for her so badly!
I know I love her, I've never had this feeling before it's really weird, same for her, she says she loves me too. I'm only 22 but also not that experienced with close relationships, it's all new to me, I'm so close to her. It's like jumping into the deep end of a swimming pool when you'e learning to swim. As anyone had that with someone and lost it? The thought of losing her scares me, even though I have no real reasons to lose her.
2006-11-22 15:37:38 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you two have a great friendship that will lat as long as you two want it to. Whether or not that frienship goes to the next level is up to the two of you, If you care enough about each other, it wil last.
2006-11-22 15:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything in life that is worth having carries with it a certain amount of risk and love is no exception. You sound like a sensitive, mature and very lovable 22 year old and I think your girlfriend is fortunate to have such a caring and devoted partner. There is nothing better than just going for it 100% if you know it's right, and to hell with the consequences, because realtionships like this demand and deserve complete commitment; however, I would always advise anyone to hold a little something in reserve - a sense of self-worth and self-belief so that if things ever do go wrong, you have the strength of character either to fix it or make the decision to leave it behind. As another poster said, go for it but never become needy - love should empower you, not leave you weak and dependent.
Good luck.
2006-11-22 18:29:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have. Definately go for it because it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all. I loved someone so much, we were talking about marriage, he was my best friend. Then he got cold feet and ended everything and I was so surprised! Luckily our friendship after awhile grew again (though it's definately different). But don't let fears stop you! If you decide to start a relationship with her, be honest from the start that it scares you a little, she will understand and is maybe a bit scared too. Just don't seem "needy" when you tell her that or she'll think she's signing up for a long haul of emotional baggage.
2006-11-22 15:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Celia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel this way about someone very, very special, but you already knew that :)
Like you do me, I think of you morning, night and then in the day too, and just as you mentioned, I'm not okay, when you are not either. I guess that's the part of loving someone that connects you on a different level - being able to tune into each others feelings so much so that you feel them yourself, and when they are bad ones, you want to take them away because you'd rather deal with them yourself than see the person you love deal with them. A few things in your post kind of worry me though. I know that you care for me, and I care for you too. The thing is, you say you'd rather go through this whole recent thing instead of me going through it, but you've been so involved, and so there for me, that you ARE going through it, WE'RE going through it. You just might not have noticed it as much as I do. In a way, I'm glad you are there, because without you, this last month would have been devastating, and every day we keep getting closer, stronger, because we're sharing things like this. A lot of people would crush under the stress, we haven't, which brings me to the end bit of your post - You are never going to lose me. I've told you it a million times before but I'll keep telling you until you start to believe it! I'm madly in love with you, and you mean soo much to me, that giving you up would kill me. So you really have nothing to worry about, I'm going nowhere (though sometimes, you might wish I would for a while! lol) And as for not being "experienced"....who cares? lol...you know..."go with the flow and that" ;).
Love you.
T xx xx xx
2006-11-23 00:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by tahanni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have felt the same way and the only thing to do to stop feeling this way is to start a relationship with her. You're feeling these feelings because you want her and you are in love with her. So go ahead and just ask her and don't be shy. Life is too short. Good Luck.
2006-11-22 18:18:06 · answer #5 · answered by Falcon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes baby that sounds like life. When relationships are new and they give u that feeling its wonderful, but unfortunately we can't predict the future so being in love is truly hard to do, cause you hurt, just thinking about not being able to do it no more. JUst don't worry about the bad until it happens then if you love the lord, I don't care what your situation is he will guide you to make the right decision....God Bless you and GOod LUck
2006-11-22 15:49:13 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Twissta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, losing someone you love sucks big time but my man, you have no reason to worry. You say you love her and she loves you and this is new, the last thing you should be doing is worrying about losing her! This is the best time of a relationship when things are new and you're still learning about each other so you should enjoy every single second of it!
Just take it easy and take things as they come.
Good luck :)
2006-11-22 15:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Random Mandom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'e never had that. But aww you're sweet, I'd love a guy to feel this way about me, even better if I'd feel that way also. Most guys are after one thing, she's a very lucky girl by the sounds of it. Good Luck to the both of you!
2006-11-23 05:12:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i met this guy in april of this year, and in a matter of weeks i feel for him, like sky diving out of a plane with no chute....scary, because im a long term kinda girl, who usually brings the chute to slow the fall....
but i fell hard, ate the dirt, but i wouldnt take it back for a thing!!!
i may only be 18, and he'll be 23 soon, and we've been dating six months, and were expecting a baby boy.
you'll know its ment to be, if you've never falled this quick before, i promise!!!
2006-11-22 15:43:49 · answer #9 · answered by ruspecialenuf 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people have experienced this feeling and its called true love, everything that you described is love. Being scared of losing her even without any reason for being scared its love. Just let nature take it course and enjoy your time
2006-11-22 15:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by worriedmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋