for about a year now I have been in love with a guy I met last october and have gotten to know very closely. at first I just liked him...he was everything I was looking for and it seemed mutual. then one night he asked me out, and I got so nervous that he wouldn't like me (he seemed too good to be true), that I chickened out and made up a excuse to get out of it. I was going to ask him out the very next morning...but when I went to I found out he had gone out with another girl...who is now 'the love of his life'. after that happened we kept talking...and I connected with him in a way I have never found with anyone else. I fell in love...real true love. I care about him so much. there is no one else I want to be with. I have been going crazy for months not being able to move on. No matter what it seems like I always come back to him. I want to tell him everything but I know the truth is I am nothing to him. I can't take this anymore. How do you stop loving someone, can you?
2006-11-22 15:36:24 · 8 answers · asked by nd2chnge 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on honey... get over it! He doesn't love you.... so lets say you go and tell him, he leaves his gf. he gets with you, you love him, but he still loves her! you will be even more miserable if it wasn't him who wants to be with you... you will have this one sided thing, andhate yourself for it..... Im sure if you found the right guy you would totally forget about this one.... when a woman is in love it is very easy to make everything look beautiful... you wouldn't recognize his flaws no matter how obvious... he's not as perfect as you think he is....wait on the Lord, he has someone so hot, sexy, amazing, with a stunning smile, that will sweep you off your feet, and make this guy part of the miserable past!
2006-11-22 15:42:23 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't, I just went through a huge gigantic breakup with my boyfriend becuase he " had other interests " in someone else. .. it broke my heart. I didn't eat anything for 3 days. I couldn't concentrate on anything I still have a hang over headache! I cried! wish i would have done things differently.... But I realized something... You can get over him.. You just have to tell yourself you can be happy without him too... You don't need him to live do you? if you say yes then stop and take a step back..... could you date someone who already has a love of his life?no. if he has found someone else then its too bad... If he really was in love with you and you with him then he will come back to you! things won't work out with his new love youwatch! my boyfriend and i got back together 3 days later......... because then he relized she was just a slut. ......... it may take time but think about it.... Don't wait around for him. move on with your life.. you will always love him but you don't always have to be " in " love with him. distance yourself from him. then maybe he will realize that you are the flour of his cake...... he needs you in your life... but if he doesn't then just forget about him. You may have a great friendship but you should take a step back for a bit to heal your wounds... hang out with friends. try looking at guys and saying to yourself " wow he is hot" even if all you can think about is him. Because to be honest with you. you probably won't ever be with this man unless its way way way way in the future... you can't wait forever for someone who might not want you... find someone who does.. enjoy your life. dont' let it be smashed by him. Occupy yourself..... learn something new like knitting, or take an art class. paint, play an instrument. hang out with friends... read books that aren't about love. it will help you free your mind enough to at least look past that for a just a while.. and then maybe he will come back if not keep on truckin. sorry this is a confusing answer... love is a fragile subject there never really is a right answer. good luck. hope imade you think about some things.
2006-11-22 15:51:29 · answer #2 · answered by LIZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He picked her after knowing you. I wouldn't want to be second choice for any man. You can feel this way about someone else, you just have to let yourself move on. Find the guy out there who will want YOU even if you miss a date!
2006-11-22 15:52:17 · answer #3 · answered by honey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can ever stop loving someone, trust me; I'm trying and failing miserably. But if you love him the way you say you do, watch him be happy with his true love, be the shoulder he has to cry on if it doesnt work out. Fate gets its little knots, but in the end it's all smooth sailing. Best of luck!
2006-11-25 17:55:13 · answer #4 · answered by kounetsukyuuketsuki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you stop looking at the message their send me.. when you notice how that when you are together you have nothing in common.. same as when you see them you are not so happy as the frist time you met.. you don't have much buterflies in stomach when their call you or even wrost when you notice the thing their do is making you say "i want to be somewhere else" and finally, you never know what to say than words that make them get the idea you are not attrached with them!
2006-11-22 15:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by SimileyDaisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him. tell him how you really feel towards him. respects his answer and be open minded. always bear in mind that we can't always get what we want.if he doesn't like you, find another.its not the end of the world. start dating somene so that you can move on easily.dont ruin your life because of him. REMEMBER: GOD NEVER CLOSES A DOOR W/O OPENING THE WINDOWS. HE ALWAYS GIVE US SOMETHING BETTER WHEN HE TAKES SOMETHING AWAY
2006-11-22 15:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
this kind of love never dies.You can't really say anything to him now that he is dating someone.Wait it out maybe they will break up and youll get your chance to express your love for him.But it never dies or fades away!!
2006-11-22 15:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by andy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you cant stop loving someone..... ive tried, if you can then please tell me.
2006-11-22 15:39:07 · answer #8 · answered by Adam 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋