I was on and off with my ex for 4 years, and I finally broke up with him for good. We didn't have much in common, but we did have fun together. Well, we didn't talk for about 2 months, and then he came to visit me at work. We started talking, which led to us getting intimate again. I keep telling him (and myself) that it doesn't mean anything, when in reality it does. He has recently told me he is still in love with me, but I don't want to tell him how I feel because i know that it will just not work out in the end. But all of this is leading to me being extremely sad, constantly crying, and thinking about him. I know I should cut it off completely, but he is going through a really hard time right now, and I would hate to just completely cut him off at this point in his life--but at the same time it is hurting me more and more to be with him like this. I don't know what to do. Please, someone give their advice. I would really appreciate it. Thank you.
2006-11-22 15:33:34 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
how did you know that you were not meant for each other? you should try it. don't focus on the hurt. live the present moment and look forward for your future. go and talk to him.
2006-11-22 15:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by Grasshopper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can honestly say i don't love him that is for sure. I wish him the first-class in life, simply when you consider that we weren't made to be does no longer mean he will have to no longer be blissful. I do know he is married, has children and i get married subsequent year so we met our actual loves which is exceptional. We reconsiled our variations after our breakup and i do not hold any unwell will against him however I used to be no longer myself with him, I used to be submissive and scared he would depart at all times if I spoke up. I think we wanted to grow up which we did. My fiance loves my fiery part and i'm very a lot myself with him, don't ever trade for anybody.
2016-08-09 23:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by gadis 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I still love an old boyfriend - sometimes they don't go away. We were together for a few years and tried to get back together but it never worked. I just heard that he has been with someone else for some time now and I am surprised by my strong reaction to the news after all this time. It's a horrible way to learn that you did really love them, but life is like that.
Don't lose touch. You don't know - maybe you are supposed to wind up together after all. As much as we like to think we control things - there are depths to your heart that you know nothing about.
2006-11-22 15:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by slipstreamer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like a match made in heaven. Well, sort of. Clearly both of you want to be together. Try to figure out why you have problems. See a councilor. Seriously, you obviously love one another. If you love each other enough then you can definitely make it work.
You know you people crack me up. Someone else asked the question "This guy won't make me happy but I still love him just the way he his" the other day. The group told the person to give him a chance.
2006-11-22 15:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he is your ex for a reason. Remember why. you are only hurting yourself by spending time with him. Let him go. I know that you said he is going through a hard time but leave it up to someone else to fix. If you don't look out for yourself who will? Find someone that it doesn't hurt to be with. you deserve to be happy and loved.
2006-11-22 15:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can move on.. just be his friend.. but the best way is to avoid him as much as you can,when he calls just say your busy and cannot talk.. or say your tired from work and your hving an early night.. anything that makes you can get a life without him talking to you and seeing you!.. I never been where you are not with my boyfriend
2006-11-22 15:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by SimileyDaisy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years of on and off . you guys have to talk and make some compromise. looks like a you guys not gonna go away after all.
2006-11-22 15:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by howdy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you love someone does not mean that you were meant or supposed to be with them. Thaere are thousands of people in relationships for all the wrong reasons...don't let yourself be one of them too.
2006-11-22 15:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you realize that it will never work out in the long run then why would you want to waste your time and get your heart broken even more? i know its so hard but its for the best.
2006-11-22 15:37:33 · answer #9 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds really hard and easier said then done, but just let him go.
Once you find somebody else you'll remember that love but you'll know what to look out for. You'll know what to do, you'll know what not to do.
Just let your heart heal.
2006-11-22 15:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by Mango Monkey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋