Okay, I went on a "date" with this guy like a month ago. I had only known him for two weeks and he asked me to be in a relationship. (I'm only 17-he is 20). Well, of course I said that it was too soon, etc, etc. For some reason I have a gut instinct about him and I do not feel comfortable around him. Several people I know have said he is a bit odd and he stares at me constantly. He is ultra-sensitive and always asks me out, but I come up with an excuse because I am afraid of hurting his feelings. He just gives me the creeps..but I don't know if I'm just paranoid or what. At first I thought it was just because I barely knew him, but I've known him more and STILL do not feel comfortable around him. What scared me was him wanting a relationship of bf/gf when I had only known him 2 wks and hung out ONCE for 2 hrs. He also visits my work and sits there for hours and my co-workers said he will just stare at me. He also leaves me gifts. Should I be concerned?
2006-11-22 15:21:49 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I tend to attract stalker-ish type men because my friends say I smile and laugh all the time, so they may get the wrong idea..is this true? Thanks for any help!
2006-11-22 15:22:20 · update #1
Trust your instincts. Definitely sounds creepy.
2006-11-22 15:24:28 · answer #1 · answered by Brad 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's fair to say you should be concerned.
Definitely his behaviour is creepy.
If I were you I'd tone yourself down for a while and never be alone, just with friends.... big friends.
Just have a healthy dose of paranoia.
Excuses can only last so long and I'm sure he has an idea what's going on... Unless he's creating a story in his mind what you are doing and why.
I understand about not wanting to hurt his feelings but this is kind of prolonging some other feelings (not sure what) and your discomfort.
It would be better to nip it in the bud as soon as you can so he can stare at someone else. Be tactful, honest and gentle with him when turning him down. Try not to blame anyone. Maybe say it's not the right time in your life...that you need to figure out alot of things like your future schooling and career. You have to figure out what you want in life and don't need any major distractions.
If you are brave enough meet him at a very public place and tell him that his behaviour does trouble you and you aren't comfortable with his intensity...just don't sound like you are blaming him... hope you know what I'm saying. Good Luck!
2006-11-22 15:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Gigi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you gut is telling you to leave him alone. Leave him alone. He may not mean you any harm but any guy that will sit at your job for hours and stares at you should be avoided. Tell him that your not ready to be in a relationship right now. And you would greatly appreciate if he would stay away from your job. Because your boss said it distracts customers or something. Tell him the more he tries to be with you the more it turns you off. Just to be sure tell him all this in a public place or on the phone just in case he is crazy.
If he doesn't quit tell him your big boyfriend is kinda crazy and he doesn't like other men hanging around you.
Good luck
2006-11-22 15:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by kaliprincess82 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's creepy. Rely on your gut instinct and stay away from him. The little voice inside of our heads is usually right. Try reserving yourself a bit and don't give off the wrong impression in the future. You don't want to attract another strange character.
2006-11-22 15:26:35 · answer #4 · answered by wilhelmenawiem 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The number one thing you need to be aware of is your gut instincts (especially about men) are usually correct. If you aren't sure, think about this... are you making excuses for someone who isn't treating you right, and thinking "time" will heal him? Your first red-flag is your instincts. The next one is the potential of "making excuses" for his behavior, out of duty, or love or whatever. My feeling on this is that you are probably correct. If he creeps you out, you need to be blunt and tell him you aren't the least bit interrested. The "creeps" are also telling you to keep your distance. There is someone out there for you that you have probably known all your life and didn't think about. Someone you can be yourself with...no excuses or anything. Think about it :)
2006-11-22 15:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he creeps you out there's a reason. Trust your instincts and stay away from him. As to knowing him only two weeks and he wants a bf/gf relationship I don't think that's weird.
2006-11-22 15:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if i were you, i'd be real concerned. im 16 and i was seeing a 20 year old and he didnt demonstrate any of those type of characteristics so i dont think it has to do with his age. but if you have a gut instinct i'd say you need to watch out for youself and dont see him anymore. especially by yourself. i wouldnt say you're paranoid at all. but you really need to watch out for yourself and stay around people constantly. you never know, he could be dangerous. good luck with himm. oh and P.S. - you should carry around mace with you:)
2006-11-22 15:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by LongingForYourTouch 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people have outgoing personalities, but that doesn't mean you deserve to be stalked. Don't accept his gifts, and you may have to go with a restraining order.
2006-11-22 15:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-12 23:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ALWAYS go with your gut feeling. You are being told something and need to listen to your subconscience.
2006-11-22 15:24:57 · answer #10 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋