I know this is WAY wrong, but I think I love him. Every day after school I find an excuse to stay after. He treats me less like a student and more like a friend. Once he took me to coffee. I've never met his fiance and to tell you the truth, I don't want to. He recently invited me to his wedding. I don't WANT to go, it would be too painful, but I want to object. He loves ME, not that other disgusting creature wearing the size 15 wedding dress (I'm guessing!)! Help me. We love each other, and our love is PURE. He doesn't know it yet, but he wants to marry me. Maybe we can have 12 children and live in a mansion by the sea. I know I'm young, but I'm NOT naive. I know this is right. I can feel it. The question is, how to break it to the fiance. And I need to start shopping for wedding dresses, because the wedding is next week. P.S. my teacher doesn't know anything about my desires, he probably thinks that our love will never be. My parents are aware of this and approve.
2006-11-22 14:02:51 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Let it go. It's too late. If he doesnt know that hes in love with you now, he's NEVER going to get it. He dropped YOU the hint when he invited you to the wedding that HE IS GETTING MARRIED. It's life. Try to find someone your age. I hope things work out, and try to think about it from his perspective.
2006-11-22 14:48:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You cannot be serious. If your parents approve, there is either something wrong with their judgement or you are not telling them everything. First of all, a relationship would be illegal and your teacher could go to prison. Second of all, you are being totally outrageous in assuming that this guy is going to leave his fiance and marry you! DO NOT go to the wedding. DO NOT pursue him any further! You need to go to the school counselor and request a schedule change to get out of his class. Yes, you are young and yes, you are naive. His fiance does not wear a size 15. Your love is not pure. And, hello! He doesn't know it, but he wants to marry you? You are crazy! Start looking at the guys your age. I don't mean to sound harsh, but if you pursue this any further, you will ruin your life and his! Good Luck!
2006-11-22 14:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, I do not know how old you are, but it seems somewhat infantile and no more than a mere crush. He's getting married. The student and teacher part is not the issue here. It's what his true happiness is. Date other people and get boyfriends who aren't attached. Your parents approve but it sounds like he is happy. I do not mean a lecture but there are other guys out there not attached. There is much more growing up to do, whether college or high school. My wife and I are 6 years apart. When we married we were happy now we are happier. Don't rush these things. When you're in school there is not nearly as much responsibility. I'm surprised your parents approve. I moved with my hubby when I was 17. I am now30and she is 30. It reminds me of my crushes. I had a crush on my teacher when I was 7. :) It just didn't work, she was busy with school and I was busy playing at recess. JK. Anyway, more seriously find someone near your own age while you are young emotionally ect. It's not all fun and games when you get married and have even one child. That doesn't even bring up the legal issues here.
2006-11-22 14:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by dorkapoo 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry dear, but this will never happen. You don't say if you're in high school or college. I'd guess college because your "..parents are aware of this and approve." But based on the rest of the question, I'd say that you're probably still in high school.
For one, you are way too young for this guy. Two, you are a student of his and he could get fired if he tried to have a relationship with you at this point, and if you are a minor, he could also face jail time. Three, he's in love and getting married next week.
Time to look for guys your own age and forget about the teacher. I know most people have a teacher that they've had a crush on at one point or another, but you need to see that this is only a fantasy for you, reality has you with someone closer to your age. Forget him for your own good.
2006-11-22 14:09:23 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
all you can do is tell him how you feel, before its too late. Let him decide who he wants to marry. it is possible for student and teacher to get together at some point in their life, perhaps later down the road after the student is no longer a student. Depending on your age as well matters of course, if your under 18 than theres more of the chance this guy is not looking for someone that young, but like i said all you can do is tell him how you feel. And go from there
2006-11-22 14:32:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find a guy your own age. You are just infatuated with your history teacher. Be smart and don't let yourself get caught up in a situation that can go no where. Your teacher is wrong to spend time with you on a one to one basis. He is letting himself open for a world of hurt if you follow through on any of your thoughts. The other important item to think about is he is engaged to be married in only a week, he must love her very much to be getting married.
2006-11-22 14:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can assure you that even if he were to leave his fiance for you, that you will never live in a mansion by the sea living on a teacher's salary.
He could, in most school districts, put his teacher's license in jeopardy by dating a student.
My advice is go for someone more attainable, like the captain of the football team. You will have a lot more in common with the captain than with a man twice your age.
2006-11-22 14:20:44 · answer #7 · answered by jdnmsedsacrasac1 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, YOU know it is way wrong..., then why border? You go out of your way to stay after school just so he can even notice you// come on WAKE UP!!
He is not in love with you i promise. Its ok to have a crush on your school teacher,.. its all a part of growing up, but be careful do not even say it out, Not even as he is getting hooked next week. So you are not made a laughing stock...
Save your money cos you might have to buy another wedding dress when ur husband comes..
What did you give to your parents for them to approve Such? OH PLEASE"""""""
2006-11-22 14:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Baby seriously it's not realistic I'm going through the same thing. It won't work out. You two were born in completely different generations, his idea of fun is chugging some beers and playing pool with the boys, yours is probably going out and dancing. There is just so much of a maturity difference that ultimately will cause you guys not to work out. I can't say any of this 100 percent sure because love isn't defined in a little box, but save your tears!
2006-11-22 14:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter what your parents think. It is illegal.
If he's engaged to someone else, why are you even entertaining the idea of getting married to him?
You need to do some serious growing up and seek professional help asap. You are the one with the issues here. I don't believe for one second that your parents could possibly approve of that unless they are just as psychotic as you are.
2006-11-22 14:13:51 · answer #10 · answered by Cinnamon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋